i guess it is very true that we go through different stages of life and we basically do or pursue very different things in every stage.. here's what i think and i wonder if this is also common at large??Before mid-20s Before mid-30s Before mid-40s After mid-40s freshman in the job who wants to learn and gain experience, but most importantly get what was assigned to be completed on time.. still not financially capable, lifestyle and clothing differs little from schooling days, keep and eye on the price of everything.. social circle confines to ex-schoolmates most of the time.. the golden age in career, works most industriously and passionately for promotions, ranks and status.. financially stable and capable, clothing goes branded and lifestyle goes classy (which can be flamboyant), at times beyond what can be afforded.. social circle is a mixture of some ex-schoolmates and some close colleagues.. matured, probably at the peak (or nearing the peak) of career, or in some cases caught in the crossroad of how life should proceed.. spending on clothing and lifestyle according to what can be afforded but generally turned subtle, practicality and worthwhileness are the first considerations.. social circle is probably limited to just a handful of close friends.. well, i am not in this stage yet.. i guess life surrounds none other than just and only just work and family.. anyway here's what i think: if you are still doing and pursuing what you were doing and pursuing 10 years ago, you may want to be alerted of not having changed.. :) | 
Goodness!!! I wanna cry after reading these stages of life!!!
ReplyDeleteI am closer to my grave each day. Sobs!
Let's partay!
I didn't go through the same stages like how your written tales from "Before Mid-20s" onwards. Everyone's fate in this life is so completely different and no 2 persons will look the same and live the same way.
DeleteSo Thambee is still in his 30s and keeping a happy ten heart with so many god sons like Fing Fing, Minions and Doraemon. Age is just a number wokay and Thambee is my most inspiring icon, not to grow old. Maybe I should start collecting figurines and dolls to stay young besides combing a karipap hair-do like Sherman Khan. Should I keep Barbie Dolls?
Good afternoon anay...wah u so early today.
DeleteToday sk's post is like the old teka teki. What's when young have 4 legs , group up with 2 legs and old with 3 legs.
TM, if you suddenly tell me you are keeping Barbie Dolls, I will feel creepy leh.. Imagine you look at them, comb their hair, talk to them and groom them everyday.. Eeeeee, takut, cannot leh ....
Deleteahaha your comments made me laugh... oh yeah.. so lucky SK even at 30's still embracing youth through toys... so lucky ah!
DeleteOh no.. TM.. why Barbie Dolls?? why not... Little Ponies hehehe
@Princess Ribbon.. i imagine that too LOL
PR, you make it sound so darn scary la. Like the Chucky doll leh.
DeleteGood afternoon, SK and everyone here. Happy Tuesday. One more day to go, I am off for Raya Holiday, hurray! Life is short, be happy all the time, ok!
ReplyDeleteBy the way, Yannie thinks that 40s is the new 20s. I feel much happier now than ever, simply because I love myself more, I enjoy life more, I let go things and move on with life when I can't help to change. Like SK said, I stay low profile and humble than when I was 20s, because i know what is more important for me.
When Yannie was 20s, Yannie was too proud, Yannie was not as happy as now, Yannie always care and mind how others looked at her and judged her. Yannie lived in the eyes of others. When age is catching up, Yannie cares less about how others judgement, Yannie just needs to be herself. What others think of her is none of her business anymore. Then only Yannie realized that true happiness is lied beneath ourselves. We just have to determine what is important to us and do things follow our heart. Then, you won't be wrong anymore.
DeleteMid-20s, after graduated, found job, very committed and hardworking at work. I easily got upset with what boss and colleagues’ behaviors. Yes, financially was just so so only. I couldn’t afford to treat friends to expensive lunch that time.
DeleteBefore Mid-30s, financially was a bit solid, I could afford to treat friends to more high class restaurant already. That time, I was married and got babies. So I also put family at the first priority. I still could not buy branded stuffs because of children were still small.
Before Mid-40s, this is my stage now. I can have more me-time because children already big already. I could afford to buy things that I like. I start to know privacy is important. I start to value old friends and good friends more. Happier than when I am 20s.
After Mid-40s, I just hope that I am more matured and wiser than before. I just want simple happy life, no worries and no stress.
Sound easy, but difficult to do, right? I must learn from Anay, how to live happily ever after with Letchumy, kekekeke!
oh yes, just like what everybody says.. life begins at 40s... not on the stage yet and I'm way to far from it but as what I can see from my auntie... she seems like embracing her 40s and living her life to the fullest now.. she starts traveling from one place to another and more.. gosh i wish my life at 40s will be as blissful as hers
DeleteBluedreamer, i heard that too, life begins at 40s, it is so true, I never love myself as much as I do now. Before that, I live my life to please others, I was very mind how others perceived me as a person. Now, I don't mind already, I live my life for to its fullest, I enjoy my life, I hang around with positive people, I avoid people who create dramas in my life.
DeleteI am wondering now, how I will be in 50s? May be I am even wiser and matured. I am happier than 40s, I hope I am still able to carry out my active life, I hope my life is even more relax than before. I hope I can spend more time with my family and my spouse.
Really? Life begins at 40s? Hmm, 10 more years and I'll be at that stage, 10 years can be fast can be slow, hoho!
DeleteAnyway, I just think we should all stick to a motto, which is to live and cherish every moment. We will never know what's gonna happen tomorrow.
I read all the tabs.. Mine very different from the tabs.. You can say I’m not ambitious.. Really, from day1, I feel I’m not ambitious at all..
ReplyDeleteBefore mid 20’s – I’ve always wanted to faster finish college so that I can start working. Mum was very strict with us when we were young.. No freedom. Cannot go out.. No phone calls at home too.. Miserable childhood.. No tuition.. Everyday must go home after school, take afternoon nap.. During schooling, can’t wait to start college, then graduate and start working..
Before mid 30’s – I don’t look for ranks and promotions.. I don’t even want a travelling job.. Just want to sit in office, ban leng leng with aircond and all, and hope the office got a lot of leng chais.. Really not ambitious one la me.. I look for s table job, 9-5pm job, with lots of leng chais coming after me, kakakaka..
DeleteBefore mid 40’s – This sounds more like me.. Willing to spend on clothes and all.. But guess by this time, already got kids and all.. All money spent on kids.. Raising a kid now is not cheap.. Tadika+daycare already RM600+ per month.. That’s for one child.. If 2 children, that would be RM1200+.. Then house installment, car installment, milk formula (they’ll be still drinking milk at that age).. And if there’s a 3rd child, babysitter fee RM800+ per month.. Life’s difficult now.. Eating out is not cheap anymore.. A family of 4, go for taichau.. One hor fun, one fried rice, one fu-yoong egg, one claypot tofu and one green vege, RM80-100 already..Then there’s insurance.. One kid RM2k-3k per year.. If 3 kids, you count.. *swt*
DeleteAs for singles, can think about buying houses and properties, but I guess it’s hard to own a property now if depending on decent job.. Unless father mother rich, can buy house for them, then different story..
After mid 40’s – As for singles, can think about getting married and live happily ever after.. For married couples with children, life’s the same.. Wakeup, send kids to school, go to work, come home, teach kids homework, sleep. Then at the end of the month, tunggu gaji, after 1 week, habis all pay this that, tunggu year end for bonus..
DeleteBut if you ask me, my dream description of life is how leh, I would like to rephrase..
DeleteBefore mid 20's - get a job that I love, have many guys coming after me, drive nice car and happy happy everyday with puppy love and flirting and all.. *haupoh mode*
Mid 20's - Get married, have kids, have a nice house, life's senang..
Before mid 30's - No need to work, become siew-lai-lai, operate own business or whatever la, work from home ke, home business ke, no need to work ke, shake legs ke, whatever.. Only fetch kids to school.. Oh wait, no need fetch, got driver fetch..kekekeke..
This is guys one, I think for girls one, 20s is the golden age to look for a good guy to marry. No surprise I guess part of the reason is because my horoscope is cancer, so I'm more concern the family, the best is get marry and give birth 20s, then 30s raised your child, 40s all kids have grown up, so can travel around. For guys 40一支花，年纪越大越增值, female is the other way round, 30s don't know since when got categorized as leftover women and called as 3高中女, age high, knowledge high, salary high...hard to get a bf or husband, as those around same age will look at those 20s, hardly got interest on those 30s (those super super pretty one doesn't, I mean those common look one)
ReplyDeleteBut I also guess most of the before mid-20s youngster now is not really like that. First have to see what's your family background, if the family background is good they will said "why I need to work? my parents have enough for me to survive until the day I die!" So for them is sit home play games, hangout with friends and even can go travel anytime they want.
DeleteThe average one who also from a good family background but this they're much hardworking, they will look for a job outside, but still as like pampered child, thought everyone has to please them. Carry a super expensive of coz the super branded one to interview (ps: the bag is even more expensive than the person who interview them) Also they either scared to ask question or dare to ask any questions without thinking.Expect the senior tell them everything before they even start trying...
I agree that we go through different stages in life. Our thinking, priorities and values change as time goes by. I take it that the first 3 stages is from your own experience which is very different from mine.
ReplyDeleteBefore Mid-20s : I had wanted to pursue an academic life ie continue with Masters and then PhD. I graduated at 21 but my plans were not to be. I had to abandon my plans and started work with a firm. It was not my choice of profession but I worked out of necessity. It was frustrating and I was angry most of the time.
DeleteHonestly, I wished I could get the hell out of there but I carried out my job as best I could. There were tight deadlines, some almost gave me heart attacks but I survived. I was not into that line of work and I couldn't care less about promotions or even increments.
DeleteI'm a low maintenance person and I could survive on the low salary. I don't wear branded clothes and neither do I go for holidays. My main expenses were on food hah..hah... and books. I only buy clothes and shoes when the need arises ie. the shoe or the clothes koyak.
DeleteI didn't even socialize because I am not the type who likes to hang out with friends and go to clubs and nightspots. I lead a quiet life which some may find terribly boring. But to me, it is peaceful and I enjoy being by myself with a good book.
DeleteMy concerns at the time was finding a way out of my job to do something else. I did explore some possibilities until my dad took pity on me and sponsored me to pursue another field. Well, I made it with my family's support and I achieved my ambition after my Mid-20s.
DeleteBefore Mid-30s : I entered my profession at a very late age, almost 30s. I was still pursuing professional exams. It was quite tough working and studying at the same time. But I was already nearing my goal, so I trooped on with the encouragement and support of loved ones.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I am not ambitious. I mean, I don't aspire to be senior partner or earn RM10K a month. I was more interested in achieving a balanced life. At the time, my life was work, work, work and more work. Sometimes working until after midnight or even up to 3am the next day.
DeleteNope, no branded or flamboyant clothing for me or even a classy lifestyle because that was not my interest. I wanted to own a home because at the time, I was renting a place. Since I was so low maintenance, I managed to build up some savings.
DeleteI still did not have a social circle because there was no way of socializing when you are in the office even during weekends. But luckily for me, personality wise, I am not the extroverted hoohah type. I don't need to go to parties or hang out at the clubs to be happy.
DeleteThough I was working like a cow then, it wasn't too bad because I liked my job. I was finally doing what I was trained for. I would say that it was an achievement although I finally succumbed to burn out. But I got over that by switching over to another area of work.
DeleteI would say that the Mid-30s was the turning point in my life. I was a lot happier compared to my childhood, teenage years and Mid-20s.
DeleteBefore-Mid 40s : Not much changes for me I would say except that I finally got myself a house hah..hah... All those savings from years and years helped. My lifestyle has not changed. Still enjoy staying at home and gardening and of course can pursue cooking and baking in my own kitchen :)
ReplyDeleteAs far as career is concerned, I would I am stable and I am not aiming for anything further except to carry on for as long as I can. I would say that I am contented. I don't want stress at this age hah..hah... As long as I earn enough to put food on my table and a roof over my head, I am happy.
DeleteWell said PH
DeleteAgree with what you say, a roof over our heads and a healthy body is all we are looking for, not material gains
DeleteAfter Mid-40s : I am at this stage! And I am still happy! Nope, there is nothing wrong with pursuing and still doing what I have been doing 10 years ago. I enjoy the constant in my life and I don't like changes.
ReplyDeleteI am a lot less uptight or stressed up compared to younger days and I tend to be more philosophical in life. Like, so what if I am 10lbs heavier, who cares? hah..hah...
DeleteMy life revolves around work and home and not much else. No complaints there at all. I'm a happy home person.
DeleteAnd at this age I do think beyond, you know, the end part of life. We all have to go someday and I do think about that. It was something I never thought of when I was younger.
DeleteWhat I have to say about this stage of life I am in is that I am happier and more confident. After all, old already mah... No need to worry about what people think of me and all that jazz. Looking back, my life has improved a lot and I don't ever want to turn back the clock.
DeleteI personally do not like changes too but i guess that is part of getting old right? seeing my siblings grow and mature makes me feel sad actually hehe...
DeleteI love your output in life Phong Hong.. so positive... I guess that is great..that's a best way to get rid of yourself from so much stress... too much stress will make us look so old hehe
Deleteoh I like this one... I always see the life as book where people explore one chapter of their life to another... each chapter is a different journey
ReplyDeletehmmm.. i think you got it right with the "before mid 20s" I agree with you ..
ReplyDeleteI think this is time of dreaming.. this is were they build their ambition.... this is the time that they are still motivated to see how successful they can be 10 years after.. and yes, they still connect themselves with their old schoolpals.. hanging out from here and then
before mid 30s; okay I am on this stage now.. well I can say that i am financially stable at this moment.. capable of buying what I want... but gosh my lifestyle haven't changed a bit LOL
ReplyDeleteI don't know.. i am not really picky so I don't mind wearing non branded or branded clothes as long as I am comfortable wearing it.... this is also the time when I think about organizing a budget... trying to isolate those things that are not really necessary to buy... in short.. it's the time when everyone gets matured and weary about their decisions they make
ReplyDeletebefore 40s: oh wow.. so maybe I got matured so early? LOL.. yeah at this point, they probably have their own family or starting one.... they are matured enough on everything. .. absolutely right about the career... no longer driven to job competition but would rather choose to dedicate himself on the job to make himself stable in the company for his family... i guess
ReplyDeletelike what they usually say, change is the only constant thing in this world.. you can never tell what will happen to you and your career or your life years after... there would probably something in your life that will change your path
ReplyDeleteFor now, i don't want to overthink of what will I be 20 or 30 years after.. i just makes me feel sad.. I just want to embrace everything I have now and that makes me feel happy
ReplyDeleteI'm still stuck at the [Before mid-30s]. I think this is typical Malaysian lifestyle lah... But if you ask me to classify, I think for most people it should not be tied to age group but more like [Before marriage],[Before have kids],[After have kids],[Almost retire]
ReplyDeleteAgreed with what you have written...
ReplyDeleteMid 20 to mid 30 are the best years of my life
ReplyDeleteTrue for some people! That's when we are more grown up, capable to make own money, and to some, already found a steady relationship and begin to start a family =)
DeleteMid 20 to mid 30, enjoyed my work tremendously, financially stable, always have good food to eat attending all the media lunch and media events, never a lonely moment with many friends surrounding me, now most friends are married, so lesser friends now but still blessed to have a few very good friends, not so financially well off but is contented with life as long as got healthy body and a roof over my head
ReplyDeleteSame as PH, I never thought of the topic of death when I was much younger, but now I feel that everybody got to go through birth, age, sick and death and one day we will realise that everything is like a dream
DeleteOpposite to PH is, she would not want to turn back the clock yet I would like to turn back the clock :(
DeleteThis is a good insight into life stages which I am sure all of us never realised it until one fine day, we sit down on rocking chair and started looking at the ceiling and look back what we had done.
ReplyDeleteEverybody will go thru various stages of life, whether you like it not. After the honeymoon years, which is from the cradle to school or tertiary education, the big big world is there for you to experience it.
You will have to decide on various massive decisions once you are out to the working world after you finished your education , which is likely in early twenties. Though your parents, spouse to be, close friends can advice you , it is still up to you to make life choices , and I believe every choices made is a good choice. Its just like a ship which cannot remained in the centre of the sea but needed to move on to a direction.
ReplyDeleteThe choices could be -
1. Setting your career goals and which line you want to be involved and work up from there step by step.
2. Getting married and having babies
3. Making important decisions like buying properties , cars , migrate, going back to college, career switch and etc.
Before mid-20s
ReplyDeleteYes, I totally agreed with you. That is the time where our concerns are more on our career where we wanted to gain as much exposure as possible while money is secondary.
Anyway, though this seems correct, with more experience now, I feel that if I can turn back the clock ,I will focus on my financial goals instead and aim to be financially independent as early as possible , instead of wasting time learning this and that. Maybe one good option is to become a remisier ...hahaha... or a sales guy.
It also depends on what line you are and in IT, the learning can never ends... hahaha...
DeleteYour group of social circle is likely your college friends, who had spent 3 or 4 years with you grinding in the college, and experienced all the late nights or struggles during exam times. However, as times goes by especially after you have started working, all of us will make new friends and with time, we will socialised lesser with our college friends.
ReplyDeleteIn addition, most of the folks will make comparison with each other on how well they are doing after college and how much salary they are drawing too!
Life in the before mid-20s can be said as a nice time too financially. After you have started working and with a salary which you never had before in college, we tended to buy stuffs we cannot afford before that. Of course, the spending is limited and controlled and we still have our frugality in spending, just like in college which is etched in our mindset. But this will be unlearn as times goes by.
ReplyDeleteThe Before Mid-30s
ReplyDeleteThis is a time where we are more stable in our work and yeah, probably got a promotion and better off financially. Work tends to occupy most of our time and OTs are common. Our temper in work my also flare easily. We could be taking on some slightly senior positions, like senior IT programmer.
We feel slightly more confidence in life at this stage and most of us could be just married or planning to wed. It's also a time to make massive decision like finding and buying a house and car.
I have been analyzing my own chart of life's progress and could not determine the ups & downs as my career has been like a Yo-Yo.
DeleteIt is useless to dream and plan the age for our studies, career goals, marriage, having family & kids and so forth. Mine didn't work the way I dreamed and planned where my friends made them worse with ridicules. I found out that our lives revolve around our own karmic fate and there is no 2 persons with identical fate in this world. We hold on to own fate in our own palms and only we alone can change the fate.
On the social front, yeah , we make more friends in work and but still keep in touch with closer friends from college, like what you said. However, the new friends will be closer than those in colleges where they also experienced this too due to the interactions with working colleagues.
ReplyDeleteThere will also be lonely folks who are struggling to find their soul mates, and trying very hard to get a date as time is running out for these folks.
The journey of our lives seem complicated at times along the bumpy roads. If you meet those beggars I have seen over the years, you will be more contented and appreciative with whatever you have. We will realise that money is not everything in life as loneliness and sickness is so important that could not be avoided. I have seen many wealthy people who are sick and lonely. They should start blogging earlier on and keep their mind busy!
DeleteBefore mid 40s
ReplyDeleteLike what you said, we are reaching the peak of our career and this is also the time where we earn the most. At this stage, we should have a family, house, car and if you are rich, you could own some properties and shares.
Career wise, some make it to the top and doing well in senior management while some may be in middle management. They could have travel to a few places and see the world.
You sound like someone who is sitting on senior management and globe trotting besides running marathons! You seem to pay attention more to your health suddenly as if there is a calling. Health Is Wealth.
DeleteFolks at this stage will also have concerns about their health and started doing medical checkup and basic problems like high cholesterol, high blood pressure, obesity, gout and etc may surfaced. Most of the folks at this stage joined gyms and started exercising.
ReplyDeleteI would agree with you on this issue about folks nowadays are more concerned about their well being and health but many people are sadly still ignorant. The percentage is still very low on those who are focusing on the ways to improve their well being and health.
DeleteMy school mates often rant and compare notes in the watsap chats. Looks like nearly all my friends have serious health issues that need medication. I would blame it on their bad lifestyles for still smoking and drinking so heavily besides not exercising at all.
It is very good that you have hit the gym again and started running often to stay in good shape and health.
Mostly importantly for folk at this stage is they are very protective of their loved ones like kids, spouse and parents and always strive to take care of them. This is derived from Erik Erikson which I have read before. You guys can googled it. I also blogged about it but needed to dig it out.
ReplyDeleteIf everyone could be so thoughtful and protective like you, then the world is a better place to live. We are sadly embracing the reality where parents get side lined nowadays and at worse, get thrown out of their own homes! I have seen one too many times on these sad and pitiful cases which will never end. The worse scenario can be seen around your work place where the Merlion govt has passed laws to force children to care for their old folks. I am sure you have heard of these common cases there. Why did this happen???
DeleteMy friends liked to brag that raising kids are for investments and to take care of them during their final journey of life. Excuse me?? I told them to dream on and better learn to live independently otherwise they could be too hurt and disappointed when they are nearing their tombs. Wake up guys!
Why do people like to write books about sweet nothings of old age instead of the actual facts about abandoned parents and singles? Now you have inspired me to write this book. Good idea?
After mid-40s
ReplyDeleteI also haven't reached this stage yet but I guess it's the early 50s where your career will be at the tail-end. You probably planning for retirement and hope to see the world if you have saved enough while your kids will be going to college soon.
It's also a difficult time especially when it comes to finance, health, career and etc as all will surely and gradually drop.
Whoaaa!!! Chris is still in 30s!!! So young and handsome man!! What face cream you pakai nightly??
DeleteYou need to buy more education insurance as the fees are rising up fast like hot air balloons! My friends have been screaming about their financial struggles no matter how much they made.
It's also a time to be more religious (though should start from young) and reflect deeply on the meaning of life like doing kind deeds and simmer down. I think it's a challenging time as one faces death in the later years as well as illness and etc.
ReplyDeleteIts great to have a support group at the later stage where the older folks can hang out together and learn new skills like playing ukulele and etc.
In fact, I can't wait to reach my retirement age. I always those retirement folks practice line dancing, singing and doing all sorts of activities that they like. I wish that I can be like that too.
DeleteAfter 50s and 60s, when the children have independent, I want to go travelling with my spouse, may be I can go for cooking class and etc. We should continue to learn new skills when age is catching up .
I would agree that everyone should have a good religion so that they won't go astray and fight like dogs outside the malls.
DeleteI am opposite as Yannie. I wish to work until I die. Maybe I have been too influenced by the old folks in China. Many are still working through old age not because of money. They just keep themselves busy because loneliness is the most painful part of old age. I have seen many of them who cried their hearts out for having no friends. Here, we have so many blogger friends whether online or offline....sama juga.
Anay, if I am not working, I won't be boring one, I have lots of activities to do. Anyway, I don't mind working at old age if the work life is happy and not stress. I don't want to face the stress and pressure at work that I face now when I am 60s.
DeleteI don't mind working part time at McD Taiping or AEON Taiping after I retire. lol!
When I was in my early twenties, I was living just capable to support myself. I worked for a while before I went to college. My friends are just among my college mates. I didn't spend lavishly on clothings too.
ReplyDeleteNow with my kids grown, I only spend on what I need. Not really spending on my kids anymore like those days when they were dependent on me.
DeleteNow you have been a WENNderful mummy and blogger jet setting across the globe like every 3 months a year. This hard work of yours pays off and hope you will continue to enjoy your work, happy friends and good life. Time flies so fast and we will suddenly wake up to know we are old already.
DeleteI had been through my life as a mummy whom my kids were very dependent on me. It was such a hectic life being a mum. Now I have all the time that I need. I can travel wherever I want to go but very much depending on my savings.
DeleteYour boss is your ATM!!! Your problem is that you are too occupied daily and need to plan so far ahead to have vacations. I have all the time for holidays but not enough $$$!! Please ask your boss whether he can adopt me to be his God Son?
DeleteThe phases of life... Life cycle in another words... As for me now in mid fifties, I would like to do what I live to do without thinking about work snymore,.. Time is very precious...no point working hard for the money... It will always be "not enough" so try to get that out of my mind and Life is much much better!
ReplyDeleteYou are the most blessed mummy and blogger to retire so young with all grown up kids!
DeleteNow partay and let your hair down, smiling across the Pacific Oceans.
We are happy for you and keep posting all your V-Sign photos please.
Yes, we should live the middle paths and not chase for money always like the corrupted politicians today.
Good that you don't need to work anymore. Enjoy your life as much as you like. Live happily and be contented.
DeleteI think Wenn will be next one! All kids grown up already and doing well. You can just sit back and watch the workers run the business.
DeleteTM, all of us love to enjoy life... Yes, one day you will too... Work hard now, enjoy later...been working since I am 18... Lol...
DeleteI think I will have to slave and work till my grave. There is no stopping for me!! Holidays can come in between lah. I know that once I stop working, I would leave this world faster for being useless.
DeleteThank you for sharing your insights on the stages of life. Now I know how you are like in each stage. As for me, I have forgotten most of what my life was like before now.
ReplyDeleteLOL..!!! I am not sure whether you chose to forget them like me. I had my ups and downs along my career that I choose not to dwell in the pasts. I must say I am a happier person now to realise money does not bring me happiness always.
DeleteAnay, I find myself having lack of patient when I was much younger. 20s and 30s, I got angry with things, people and situations easily. 40s, my temper is more tame. I still got angry sometimes, I tried to manage anger. I try to improve my patient. Therefore, I try to forgive and forget, I can't forgive and forget, I try to let go and move on with my life. Same here, I am a happier person now and I just want to mix with positive people. Kindness in the heart can make many people happy.
Deletemun, never mind, just enjoy the moment now. Let bygone be bygone =)
DeleteThe before mid-30s part was only true for me for before I had a kid! After that, it's almost as if I've accelerated to mid 40s lifestyle! LOL!
ReplyDeleteTime flies so fast and it was just like yesterday when we were still teenagers! Next moment we hit 40s and my head would get drowned into worrisome mode whenever I attended funerals.
Deletehmm...quite true...but i tink my career haven't reach the 'golden era' yet...
ReplyDeleteYou are still young. Be patient as Rome Was Not Built In A Day.
DeleteI hope I am already matured or maturing at the third stage.
ReplyDeleteWe'll see how I fare in the 4th stage. :)
What is there to worry? Lina is always controlling all situations and not let any situation control her! Respect and salute this Iron Woman who is always well supported by her 2 boys!
DeleteAs I am going into the 4th stage, there are some things I still do or still the same as 10 years ago but along the way, I've also done and experienced so many other stuff. :)
ReplyDeleteI know this Lina is tougher and stronger as her age advances on and so is her health and glamorous lifestyle & paparazzi attention! Kudos Mak Glam!. Anay tumpang gembira selalu.
Delete無論20/30/40, 最終目標但求無愧於心，健康活過。
ReplyDeleteRegardless 20s, 30s,40s, 50s or 60s, I just wish I can age gracefully. We can't go against aging, as long as we lead a very happy and healthy life all the time. 活到老， 学到老， 做一个快乐和健康的老人。
DeleteHmm, sometimes life is so cruel ho? I mean like it or not, we have to accept that we grow older each day.. From baby to what we are now. And as we grow older, we tend to have more and more worries and troubles... Best stage is of course baby la, cry -> being fed -> being carried -> play -> sleep, then repeat. Until may be 4 years old I guess, their life starts to change. Cause nowadays punya toddlers also not seems to be as fun as our times, they have to attend like classes and start learning already, and when entering primary school, those syllabus is tough! They are indeed stressful!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, when I was in mid 20s, I can say that's the most enjoyable moment I can recall. Though having pressure from school, I did enjoy spending my school life with my group of friends. We din't have much freedom from home, but at least we get to attend party or school functions on and off. Plus we were young, we had endless energy!
Then before mid 30s, friend circle started to change cause going to University.. And that time having mixed feelings, sad cause of home sick and missing-boyfriend sick (xD), happy cause we were finally away from home and can explore the world ourselves... Then graduate already, worry pula cause we need to go out there and work!
Before mid 40s, things tend to slow down a bit liao. Those clubbing la, party la, no longer my cup of tea liao. I prefer to go cafe to chill out and chit chat with friends. And after got married and have kids, I actually prefer to stay home looking after the kids, but still, a breakaway once a while is a must ;)
It's no doubt tiring, but nothing is more 幸福 compared to watching our kids grow every single day.
To summarise, I focus more on family now ;)
After mid 40s, hmm, I think almost same like the previous one la. But this stage, must start to take good care and pay attention to our health! Haha!
Anyway, you seems to have a different way of narrating life cycles, I mean the vocabs you used, 很深奥哦~ Hehe :p
Saw this graph not long ago in facebook. They have one more graph which also say when in 20s have energy and time but not money. Then when comes to 30s have money and energy but no time . then when old have money but no more time and energy. Haiz the stages of life. Guess that is the illustration of a normal person kot. Not counting those who are borned with silver spoon in the mouth
ReplyDeleteMid 20s ah. some what correct la though not entirely. Yes, first job is to gain experience so that can bargain for a better position and salary in the future. Not many will think of starting up own business at this stage.
ReplyDeleteMany will be still "searching" for the job that really suit themselves.
Life style need to budget . Cannot simply spend lo.
However, am not convinced about socially confined to ex-schoolmates. Around this age, many will start dating either from school or those who met from working places.
I think it would be more reasonable if say social life expand having new experience and also circle of friends include colleagues too instead of solely ex-school mate. This is also where many school friend will try to keep contact though not always sucessful
Agree with you on before mid 30s are the golden years . The best years for work and building a life. Like some say by this time whether a person is a "dragon or a worm" will be seen already. A person would have found the thing that he wanted to do in life and make it a priority instead of job hopping from here and there.
ReplyDeleteFamily wise will start feeling the heat from various relatives during celebration by the infamous sentence "bila mau kahwin?". For those who doesn't have boyfriends or girlfriend will start to have people wanna introduce their friends and family as a potential candidate.
Also this is the time where more will start a family life of their own. Here, some friends will go missing. Cantonese say "Jung sik heng yau". LOL.
Before mid 40s. Ya head many have a deep discussion with self whether they have chosen the correct path in career and family life.
ReplyDeleteTrue also before mid 40s social circle will be smaller though acquaintance a lor but close friends who can talk heart is not many. Probably coz earlier years everyone busy with their career and also family. Once started a family, there won't be much of "Me Time" , especially for females.
This is also the time where many will change career. Either jump to a totally different like (Mid life crisis?) or have enough capital to start own business instead of working under people.
Not sure about after mid 40s coz like you, I also haven reach that stage yet.
ReplyDeleteMaybe this period there will be more "Me Time" for those as their career or business would be more stable and they will choose to slow down a bit and go travelling and enjoy life while still have the energy and financially capable to travel. At least that is what i hope la.
By 60 and 70s should be best kot coz i see my parents in-law syok syok fly here and there for vacation. when have time then just jaga cucu.
The end.
hmm.... on the red writing for those after mid 40s, I would hope that maybe those who have been doing the same thing for the 10 years would have been doing the things that they love and hence there is no change in career.
ReplyDeleteAm inspired by an author who have found his niche . He have been doing the same thing for more than 10 years. Just last week in his Facebook he said there are some who commented that they envy his life. No need to do anything and just fly here and there enjoying life.
He informed those people that he does work. He does write and also have speaking engagement but because he is doing what he love and enjoyed, it does not feel like work at all.
I hope all who reached mid 40s and above will have a life like the said author. That they have found a career that they enjoyed till it doesnt seems like work at all.