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2014.04.14 | 獨自一人

[Volume 9 Issue 4, #1882]
我知身邊有人非常之害怕自己一個人, 做乜嘢都一定要同其他人一齊.. 亦都有人反而選擇自己一個人, 甚至好享受獨自一人嘅空間同自由.. 有人會認為自己一個人就等於係孤獨寂寞, 覺得一個人做咩都係好可憐, 點解冇人陪嘅?? 對我嚟講, 我唔會將自己一個人同孤獨寂寞劃上等號啦, 我重來歡迎有人陪, 同時都會歡迎自己獨處嘅機會, 當然要視情況或活動而言啦.. 一個人食飯我冇問題(雖然一個人嘅時候, 我唔會選擇去fancy嘅食肆, 為填飽個肚啫, 求其一餐得啦), 一個人睇戲我冇問題(雖然有人陪會更加理想, 尤其係睇喜劇), 一個人行街買嘢我冇問題(因為如果同朋友一齊血拼, 我會慫恿朋友買多啲, 自己通常空手而歸).. 不過有一件事我係唔會一個人做嘅, 就係去旅行.. 我覺得既然去到一個陌生嘅地方, 我希望有自己熟悉嘅人喺身邊, 可以一齊分享美好時光(同埋有人幫我揸機影相, 哈哈!!).. 你又如何呢?? 你有幾多機會或時間係自己獨自一人, 又會有幾能夠應對得到呢??
i know people around who are so uneasy of being alone and everything must be done in a company, while some prefer doing things alone and enjoy the freedom.. some would perceive that alone means lonely, and find it so miserable to do things alone, you have no one to keep you company?? well, as for me, i surely do not think alone equates to lonely, i enjoy both the company of others as well as being alone but it would depend on the activity or situation.. i have no problem eating alone (though when i'm alone i don't go to fancy restaurants but just fast-food or something quickie as i just need to feed myself), i have no problem watching movie alone (though would be nicer to have company especially watching a comedy), i have no problem shopping alone (because i usually end up buying nothing if i shop with friends).. but one thing i surely would not do alone is to travel for leisure, i mean i'm heading to a place i am not familiar with, i hope to have people i am close with to share the moments together (and also people to take photos of me, haha!!).. how about you?? how often are you doing things alone, and how well can you cope with being alone?? :)
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  1. Morning!!! Morning!!! =]

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    1. Alone??? Guess this topic just enough to describe me la!!! Since I always alone, do everything alone, go anywhere alone, eat alone......first, I'm hard to get anyone to go out with me, I was afraid that when I asked somebody out if the person reject me how??? Very scared to hear people reject me!!! Especially when see people got gathering argh, and can see the location is very near to my area woh, but the person never invite me, so how??? That's impossible to be so thick face to ask "can I join?" Later they don't want or maybe paiseh to reject the gonna be very awkward lo!!! So I always wait for people to invite one!!! Not I very arrogant, is because I don't want to other people being awkward mah!!! Guess only me like this, always see people gathering around very happily argh, I just look at the picture and look back to myself again, what did I do until they all so around but still don't want to invite me!!! Not that I always say I'm not available woh, I always said no one to invite me, actually was hopping someone very kind to invite, but it just never happen!!!

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    2. Talking about alone, my single friends and I got one thing that we hate the most is those couple argh, the bf like go somewhere else for awhile only mah, then the girlfriend starts to complain, "why am I so pity, why am I alone, why my boyfriend abandoned me?" Seriously, my friend and I really want to punch their face, what so pity and what so alone? How about us, all these single ladies and hit the wall already lo??? Those people seriously never try to understand those single feeling, always try to say like that, don't know is for showing off or trying to get everyone to please them......then us leh??? Who gonna to please us woh???

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    3. Taking about couple reminds me those festive like valentine, Christmas and new year, they always have couples promotion, then I want to ask those single, alone one??? No need to eat or celebrate lo, so for those festive time, the best is stay at home and don't want to see anything!!! If not gonna kept on have the envy feeling by own!!!

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    4. But of course we still have our life to live what, so I always got to find something fun to do lo, like find event to attend lo, go watch movie, do some reading, watch YouTube, just try to fulfill my life so won't kept thinking I'm alone, just by myself!!! =]

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    5. I can understand what you mean.. One day bf no report to gf, gf will sulk and "oi sang oi sei" (mau hidup mau mati).. I have seen people like this, and I can relate.. The guy calls the girl everyday.. Then one day, not convenient or there is something, so the guy can't call.. The girl will feel so down and sulk the whole day.. I really understand it.. It's like biasa liao having something, then suddenly don't have liao (just for 1 day), also cannot right..

      Yep, if they are alone and very pity (for that 1 day the guy never call them), then what about us? Hubby needs to work overseas, sometimes on weekends, and we are left alone to handle the family? I have seen ex colleagues whose hubby works in other countries, she needs to travel back to Melaka every Fri nite to see her son.. Then come back alone on Sunday..

      Can understand when you say you wana punch on your fren's face, hehe..

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    6. Yes ...can always find your own program. I remember when I was single , I just hit the gym and go for some nice meals in SG. I just came to sg and not many friends here.

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    7. Yah la, also like some of my friend, no matter what you tell them, all in their mind just "I'm alone, I'm alone...." serious...is wasting time to persuade them not to think like that, because they never listen!!! =[

      ChrisAu, Sharon in SG, a lot of bloggers I know currently working in SG!!!

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    8. WHy leh Xiao Ying>? You have your girlfriends what. Can ajak them out mah. WHy scare they reject you leh?

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    9. I only have one friend that I can muka terbal ask to go out, the rest I afraid to ask la!!!

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    10. I got lots of programs now ...lol ... I am refering to the past , 10 + years ago when I first come to SG. :)

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    11. well, we need friends but not everyone will be your best friend or rather true friend. I prefer to make friends with everyone but there's no one special friend. I treat everyone the same.

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    12. That's good for you!!! =]

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    13. Talking about girlfriend boyfriend, some guys don't like girls to be too sticky, they prefer girls who have their own minds and more independent because they need to work and don't like girls to always stick to them.

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    14. 小影, well I guess you can cope with being alone quite well? Actually nothing wrong being alone la! But sometimes it would be fun to have a companion too! I mean a partner for life ;)
      Hmm may be your 缘分 is not here yet, never mind since I guess you are quite young, enjoy being single first!!

      Princess Ribbon, really got such couples one, I also know a few friends who are like that when they first dating... Actually in movies also can see la! Some girls are very 'yeh man' and got 'gong zhu peng' (princess sickness), need the bf to report almost 24 hours. To me, I think that's too much la! Dating doesn't mean always stick together, must give each other freedom and personal time also ma! And some bf also, if the gf doesn't report/keep in touch then he'll go mad, aiyoyo... I don't think I am like that too when I first started paktor, hehe~
      Luckily those friends are 'over this stage' now... Eventually all become more matured already ;)

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    15. Of cause that's nothing wrong with being alone la!!! My problem is I always kena isolated until I really want to find someone to go out also cannot!!! Beside the only friend I dare to ask out, if she is not free then I got to force myself to go alone!!!! My worst case is call up 10 friends, ten friends also never answer my call! Then my mind will start saying I deserve to be treat like this......Also I wanted to clarify I don't really like to be alone, I just got forced to be alone to be that independent one!!! Everything can be very emotional and negative one, like those couple festive, open FB see so many presents, and look at me.......so don't go out during those festive!!!

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    16. Huh? Called up 10 friends but all of them also not free?! Hmm, your friends are running big business ar?? :p

      Hmm I think you are not being isolated la, perhaps the timing just isn't right? But I can see you are still enjoying life with family, through your blog. Not that bad la right?

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    17. No la!!! I always got those experience one!!! Very used to it already, so like when heard people said "I'm very mad, because he/she didn't answer my phone call!" But I wanted to say hor, I always call, always no one answer, then how leh!!! =.=!!!

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    18. why afraid to ask? what about your school or college friends? You mean you are very shy?

      But that day I saw you blog about going out with some bloggers friends. Well....start slowly lor.

      yeal nothing wrong of being alone but at times have to have friends to chat and go out also la. Too much alone also not a good thing leh. If something happen , then wanna find frined to that about also tarak.

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    19. ooopppss, sorry if the topic of this post kind of caused some unhappy feelings.. but then really, if people do not appreciate us, then we also do not deserve to be treated like that, just let go and there are still a lot of nicer people out there!! move forward, leaving behind people whom do not or do not want to walk at the same pace as us, because look ahead of ourselves, our world doesn't just revolve around those people.. :)

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    20. Afraid to get reject, for an example, A and B plan to hangout together, I know both of them, then maybe I accidentally heard it from B, but I afraid to ask, because A and B didn't assume there gonna be another person there, is kind of appropriate to ask me not to join then the situation gonna turns into very awkward moment lo!!!

      Those gatherings is because they ask me first, if not...I still afraid to ask "can I join?" lo!!!

      Yah la, every time when something bad happened to me argh, is deeply hard for me to get someone to help, most like ask my sisters or my brother in law to help instead!!!

      Yep, I've left those people behind, so tired to pretend like "good people" must learn to say "no" to this kind of friends some times!!!

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    21. errr, usually if people don't invite me, i also won't muka tembok cina go and ask if i can join.. and now you should move forward, make more new friends from blogging, and i see you had a great time with the bloggers last time right?? no more gathering meh??

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  2. Hmm, interesting topic today.. Alone? I can relate to this word.. Even I’m married, I’m very afraid of being alone also.. Example, when hubby works on Saturday and I’m left with 2 kids alone at home, I will also hope time faster pass la.. Then when he’s back, I feel ok once again..

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    1. Having said that, well, once a month or once every two months, I do take time off from work to go shopping and have some me-time.. I do apply a day’s leave or sometimes MC (errr, is it a wise move to confess here?) to have some me-time, even if it’s just lazing at home and lying in bed..

      Once a month, if I do that, I feel so good.. Just like my previous post, if you remember.. I sent my kid to the kindy, came back to do some housework (without disturbance), then went out for shopping and I ate alone.. I’m ok with that.. But like you said, depends, not all the time.. I don’t mind to be alone once a while, for my me-time, but I hope I do not have to be alone for long term, coz I dunno whether I can cope mou, or can handle mou..

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    2. So for me, it’s both.. I can be alone, but not for long term la.. Like once a month or when I feel I really need it, then yes, I want to be alone.. But other than that, I hope I won’t have to be alone la.. Like for example, taking care of kids and doing housework and all.. it would be nice if hubby can share the chore too.. When he comes back from work, then it will be his turn to takecare of the kids, while I go for my power-nap.. I appreciate times like this.. Or on a lazy Sunday, while he watches tv in the living room with the kids, I’ll quietly sneak into the bedroom and doze off, and leave the kids to him, haha.. Cheeky me, but I appreciate times like this la.. Like I can get my nap at the same time I know there’s someone out there taking care of the kids..

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    3. We do take turns to takecare of the kids when they are sick, so that instead of two, only one person needs to apply leave.. G just turned one, and hubby took leave to take him for his jab (and also did some of his personal stuff).. So next month, there’s another jab, my turn to take leave and take G for jab lor.. Taking turns seem to be fine for me, better than me doing it alone every month (previously I take leave every month for G’s monthly jabs becoz hubby is tied down with work).. So now, his work load is back to normal, his turn to take leave and take G for jab lor..

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    4. Alone is ok for me.. But when it comes to kids getting sick and all, it would be good if there is someone to share it too, like in laws or parents or the hubby.. Like taking turns to wakeup to check on the kids’ temperature, checking on the kid, etc.. Then the other party can get to sleep.. I am sure most parents will know where I’m coming from..

      So for me, I’m ok to be alone.. Just have to go with the flow.. If the situation needs us to be alone in handling that issue, I guess no choice, still have to be alone dealing with it, rite.. But having said that, of coz, if given a choice, it would be good if there’s somebody with me sharing the chores and all, and to go thru it together la..

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    5. Yah la, like some of my friends wonder why I know car spare parts a lot, it's because I always have to deal all these things by my own, no one help de lo!!! Usually I won't like call up my friend cried or asked how lo, if can then fix my own la, or call the towing truck, just that easy want, the crying tears won't help me solve my problems!!! =]

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    6. I agree with you Xiao Ying.. At the end of the day, we still have to face it ourselves.. Like G, previously, I thought I was so lucky becoz my mum agrees to takecare of him.. But now, not even 3 months, she said she cannot tahan liao and she's getting very tired, ask me to take him back and to find a nanny/solution asap.. With so short notice, here's another problem in life which we have to go thru it - alone.. Alone as in me+hubby (leong gung por), coz nobody can help.. Not even my own parents or in laws.. The only way is to let others takecare my kids..

      So I get what you mean.. We know about cars and spare parts and all, coz at that time, we need to settle something ourselves.. Calling for help and crying in the phone won't help. I get what you mean..

      I can relate to this topic, coz I am quite emotional on this actually.. I really understand and can put myself into this topic.. Alone or not, have to eventually get used to it.. Noone but ourself can help ourself.. There was one time, I was feeling depressed.. Nobody could help.. They could only advise and console.. But at the end of the day, I still have to overcome and face it myself..

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    7. Well, just need to balance la. We cannot be alone all the time too but then good to be alone at times for reflections. My weekends are strictly for family and church, though my second wife, Facebook and mistresses like instagram tempting me.

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    8. Yah, that's why I felt emoing sometimes too, like when I need someone to talk to, is really hard for me to get someone to talk to!!! Not that I haven;t tried before, I tried many times, that's one time I called this friend to talk argh, because this friend said before arhg, if anything can call to tell, then I just did lo!!! Then who knows on the next day, this friend ignore my calls oh!!! What??? Seriously, I was like so down and out of energy, all my mind full of negative thoughts, really don't know how...then the friend find me back next few weeks....then a lot of things happened la, what I can conclude is this friend only call me up once free so I fed up and don't want to choi this people already and now I living happily without all these friends around my life and stop being emo!!! =]

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    9. Xiao Ying, maybe these kinda people only treat us for "sip nga la".. There's one colleague here who only comes to me when he is free/lonely, and need someone to "teman" when he's driving, then he'll call me to blow water.. Then other times of the day, he treats me as invisible.. So now when I see his call, I don't pickup also.. Same same here.. Kekekeke..

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    10. Yah la, actually this friend did something very "guo fan" then only make me don't want to choi this friend one, I asked all around all my friends if someone did like that will you choi this person or not, they all answered me "NO!" You know what this friend do??? For an example, I talk to this person in mandarin, then this person who can understand and speaks well in Mandarin, purposely replied in Cantonese and answered me but facing the other friend......seriously, that's not just only one time, is been many times, the rest of my friends were wondering how did I can accept this kind of treat!!!

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    11. Sometimes when hubby needs to travel to overseas to work, I feel crappy too.. Like very “lonely”.. Suddenly will feel macam depressed, laugh all you want, but dunno why I’m confessing about it here.. Afterall, revealing too much personal stuff is not good also, but heck, u dunno me, I dunno you, so I think it’s ok..

      Sometimes hubby needs to be away for a week.. So I put the kids at my mum’s place (coz I won’t be able to make it to work if I need to send Kz to the kindy in the morning).. Mum will nag when I decide to put the kids at her place.. It’s like ask help 1x, she nags 1x.. I was thinking to myself, other parents will gladly help, but mine, no-no, she doesn’t like to be tied up.. Gawd, feeling so crappy already typing this..

      So whenever hubby tells me he needs to go overseas to work, my whole body shakes.. Yes, shake.. First, I will be thinking how many days I need to send Kz over to my mum’s place, means I have to listen to how many times of nagging from my mum.. Secondly, I have to plan what days I can take leave to take Kz back earlier so that my mum doesn’t have to takecare of him so long.. Third, I feel bad coz I have been taking many off days from work previously due to the pox and all.. So I really feel stress becoz of all these issues..

      Alone you say? At the end of the day, I still need to settle it myself.. If I don’t wana listen to my mum’s nagging, I could have just taken 1 week (unpaid) leave.. Then finish story.. But then, if I were to do that, I feel bad about work, coz how many times can I do it? If hubby needs to go overseas for 2 weeks again, then how? Unpaid leave for another two weeks?

      Then somebody in the office will just say “Just tender your resignation and stay at home takecare your kids”..

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    12. Why suddenly felt so depression? You know what, just let your mom nagging la, some really love to nagging but still will take care of your kids one, they always "mulut keras, hati lembut"!!!

      But serious, if your hubby can support then the best way is to resign and fully take care of your kids lo!!!

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    13. Those days, my hubby used to go outstation but I didn't mind being alone. I had the chance to do whatever I wanted to do without any interruptions from him. I would go shopping which was my favorite pastime. My hubby disliked shopping those days. Even now also he dislikes shopping.

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    14. Like Wenn I dont mind being alone la. There are sometime we need some ME time la.

      But at times also need to have girlfriends/boyfriends to go out and have some shopping or fun . Even after married cannot be only with husband/wife only. Each must still have own sets of friends la.

      Me still in contact with my school friend and ex colleague la. we may not be able to go out often but still have time to chat via various social media la.

      Once a year can come out low sang during CNY lo

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    15. i think we must learn to enjoy being alone and doing things by ourselves lah.. because we cannot control other people and many times it may not be possible or appropriate to rely on others, and that's where we have to be alone.. instead of being emotional and dramatic which don't help at all, why not choose to be happy and enjoy?? of course different people have different traits, and some may say it's easier say than done, but then when we are all alone, the one who can help us is ourselves!! so, enjoy companionship, enjoy company and also enjoy being alone :)

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    16. When we get into the "dramatic situation" is hardly to get out...got to let take some time to process and accept it, let it go and get over it...it may take a month or a year, depends on how long the person needs to see through the whole thing!!!

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    17. yeah, you are right, time is one good healer.. but then it's not a resolution to problems, okay?? in the end, we should be the ones who are responsible to ourselves.. 加油!! :)

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  3. Good morning SK., Xiao Ying and all...alamak......cant get first commenter place agaian kakakaka


    hmm...topic of lonely? Hmmm me biasa already...if shopping i preferred o go alone or with 1 or 2 people only. too many people i cant get my shopping done

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    1. I also biasa liao.. Once a month, when I take leave from work for my me-time, I also do everything alone.. I drive to the place which I wana go, shop alone, eat alone too.. I'm alright with that.. If somebody tag along with me, I can't do it fast, dilly dally, ended up, feel my leave is wasted timmm..

      I like to do it fast.. Go out, shop, eat, get what I want, then come back to continue doing house chores.. Or cook, then nap.. Before you know it, already evening time liao, and the day is over..

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    2. For me shopping got to see what I shop also, like buying clothes I must go with my sisters, if I going alone, I'll automatically walk into bookstore then forget the time, hehe!!! =]

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    3. true, when I go shopping with my family, I don't get anything for myself. I can only get my own stuff when I shop alone.

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    4. wah you once a month go out shopping alone ah? me once a year leh...during Christmas time when wanna buy christmas pressie leh...


      Chinese new year I usually go out shopping with my sister leh...

      err...ni topic tak termasuk go buy vegetable in pasar and go walk in pasar malam hor?

      if go those place I preferred go alone leh. If got J tag along he will bising ask me what else you wanna buy what else you wanna buy. It just irritate me so much. I just wanna jalan jalan look see look see cannot ka? If i dont see how I know what else i wanna buy leh. There are alsoways new things in pasar and pasar malam leh.like seasonal fruits and stuffs...

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    5. i think there's no wrong to do things alone or in a group, just enjoy what you are doing.. so the ladies are talking about shopping huh?? well, i do enjoy both shopping with friends and shopping alone, it's two different things to me lah.. got people together, then can help to look see look see and give advice.. if go alone, then it's the me time and no rush and no pressure, just go anywhere i like, and then whether buying things or not, it's up to me to decide.. :)

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    6. But got to find the good advice company, because some friends always like "buy la, buy la, it looks very nice on you!" keep on persuade you to buy the thing, then end up, you'll buying a lot; while some can me like "no, no, no, it doesn't look nice on you! See, you look so fat on this and that...." then end up you buying nothing....=.=!!!

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  4. But if makan , I would like company. If makan alone at home okay la...but outside is like bit troublesome . like very kesian aje makan alone. But now trend is makan with phone or ipad not so cham la. while makan can still read book or scroll scroll FB :p

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    1. I have the same thinking as you, but I still eat alone when I shop alone.. I will adjust my time, so that I eat earlier la.. Of coz I don't eat during peak hours or during lunch time, later there will be many eyes staring, right.. I know what you mean..

      So if I shop alone, I will eat first before I do my shopping.. Like 11am, when most restaurants open liao, I will faster go eat first lor.. Sit at one corner, ok la, not very obvious, have a humble and quiet lunch, then cabut.. Eating alone is ok, takes very fast time only, provided we don't go during peak hours la..

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    2. Yah la, I always makan and reading news or watching drama, so won't feel alone lo!!!

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    3. I usually eat alone at home in front of my pc. I like it this way. No wasting of time. But it I were to eat alone outside, I guess I wouldn't enjoy my food.

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    4. When working I can makan alone la. Just tapau and eat in pantry. Then read books while eating. But if go out shopping i seldom go eat alone lo. I will make sure I eat something first before go shopping. after that will puasa during shopping. Buy buy look and walk ...till around 5pm or 6pm then baru go home and tapau something to eat.

      But that one not kira as alone mah if makan and reading news or watching drama. that would be at home. Okay what/ What if go out shopping wor...or when working...maybe have to do OT....

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    5. i am totally fine with eating alone lah.. of course when alone, just simply hantam lor, go for the quick ones, go for the places with less people, and then sit at one corner, quickly makan and cabut lah.. surely eating alone will be a quick one for me, it's just to fill up my stomach only..

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  5. You can be lonely despite being surrounded by people and you can also feel loved despite being alone.

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    1. I guess loneliness is how you perceived. Anyway, can always take the initiative to make new friends.

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    2. Sometimes is hard la, like Malaysia here, everywhere you go they always in group one, like some event I join, all in group, group one, very hard to talk to them, they'll have those some call like "invisible wall" to prohibited you talk to them, some of they don't like to have newbies in their group...tell me about it, I've tried a lot of ways....

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    3. 小影 - Try joining some social groups? MLM, Toastmasters, sportss interest groups...church...etc etc ...

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    4. there are bound to have cliques everywhere even in schools and workplaces. If you are one of them, then you won't feel out of place. But if you are not, you would definitely feel lonely as they rather talk to themselves.

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    5. I did try to join a lot of social groups la, but mostly people judge from the first cover page, once you've very good looking then more people tended to talk to you, but as people like me short short and fat fat one, normally no one wants to friend with or start to talk to one!!! As we all human we know most of all we always want to see someone is pretty or handsome one, so I've already lose on the first impression!!!

      Even those friends tagged along for very long, once I've a pretty girl beside, then all those friends will go after that girl and I GG liao then turns into invisible stranger among them already....tell me about it, I've tons of experiences of it...enough to write a story book already!!!

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    6. Chris,
      Agree with you in that our state of loneliness is how we perceived it to be.

      And as for groups? Other countries and cultures have similar errrmmm problems. We are social animals. We like cliques.

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    7. betuil betuil betul lina...sometimes it is like that....surrounded by people and yet can be lonely...especially if those who dun understand us or those that is more of an aquaintance.

      Can also when go out with friends whom interest no longer the same....topic of conversation all no longer same.

      Even in group also can be lonely leh.....if all friends married already and you alone single...their topic is already different and priority different too

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    8. yeah, very true point here.. being alone may not mean lonely, and being with a group of people may not mean not lonely also.. i guess it has to do with doing things with the right people, if all also not ngam, i would rather do it alone, which i will feel even more comfortable.. :)

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  6. Like nowadays, with electronic stimulation all around us, some of us choose not to interact with "real" people but rather interact with online people. If you ask them, sure they'll telk you tgey are not lonely.

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    1. Yah, right sit on table having dinner or lunch, now you see the most is everyone must have a smartphone or tablet on hand, I always wonder what's the point to have dinner together but you're not looking at each other??? Like some parents want to keep their children quiet, they always just pass a ipad to them to keep them quiet, that works...but wonder have they ever thought off, those children are so young, based on a lot of research we know that's not good for children look at the tablet screen since they're so young...but still parents doing that!!!

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    2. Nowadays all facing the phones at the dinner table. Even 8 myself a culprit which is a bad habit.

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    3. true, in this modern age we communicate online and thus we are not lonely. But the older generation would think that we are such lonely people.

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    4. Hmmm....like the old post in your blog is it Lina....who family eating and everyone holding a gadget.

      Ahem...now older generation also very high tech leh...my MIL baru few months ago cakap why tarak FB ...bla bla....kaldip punya 80 years old uncle bukan main active in FB whatapps and what not leh. LOL



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    5. yeah, this has been such a common scene nowadays huh?? even couples do not talk over the table, but each just playing with their phones while waiting for food to be served.. and how they communicate?? post or share something on FB and then tag their spouse. it seems something like "see yourself and leave a comment, don't come and talk to me".. haha!!

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    6. I know a celebrity wife and husband are like that, Chapman To and his life, both of them almost post the same thing on instagram, obviously is same dinner set, and the cute part, they'll take picture of each other then tag each other lo!!!

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  7. Check, check, check and check. Are you talking about me? I have no issue not having someone take my photo during travel because I prefer to take pictures of the surroundings (without being inside the shot) so I'm okay in that aspect. The only place I hate to be alone is during bath-time in a strange, cold, mirrors or glass everywhere bathroom as in a hotel bathroom. Bathing with another human in there is a comforting thought but alas, this is not possible. :( Oh well..

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    1. I was thinking that too, when I travel alone is really hard to take picture, but then I thought of a solution, I've a tripod, so I can have picture of me with the views lo!!! =]

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    2. Yeah, I guess a tripod is a great 'companion' to travel with if one wants to be featured in the shots. Make it every shot to make it worth the while. :D

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    3. I have companions during travels and yet I still prefer to take pictures of the surroundings. I still prefer to walk on my own instead of following the others. But I always make sure I know the time and place to meet again.

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    4. Hmmm ...me pulak will be camera shy...when I was younger I dont mind taking photos la...but now as I grow older...welll...dont really like taking photos unless it's photo of others la. even snapping photos also will think of doing it for blog post instead of for the album .

      Like wenn, i prefered to take photo of enviroment and J LOL

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    5. haha, i would do two things, first take a few shots of the place and scenery, and after that, take photo of myself with the scenery!! haha, i just think it's fun and quite appropriate to take photo of ourselves when traveling.. other times and occasions, i would be camera shy instead :D

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  8. I have no problems alone too. I ate alone during weekdays after work, work out alone and even watch movie alone too. Sometimes you felt more peaceful alone but then, let's not overdo it. Balance yourself.

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    1. Hi-5. Once a month or once every two months, I take leave from work and shop (and eat) alone too..

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    2. Good ...Sometimes can get u want when shop alone huh ? With the monsters around , I bet they kacau you until u no mood to shop.

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    3. With the rascals around, you are right, no time to shop and eat also.. Everything has to be fast.. Go to the store, pick what you want, pay and go.. No time for dilly-dally-ing..

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    4. hmmm but i think Male is more easy la on topic of being alone. Female usually will want company.

      Coz if female it will be dangerous if jalan alone in shopping complex. If in area that is not aman, will kena kacau

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    5. hahaha, maybe that's correct also.. guys are more okay to being alone, while girls mostly would like company so they could talk and gossip, haha.. and i also actually see more guys being alone than ladies..

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  9. However , if got a pretty companion, I don't mind too.lol ... anyway, I also knew folks who always need companionship whatever they do else they rather stay at home and cook Maggi mee.

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    1. I think I'm that person.. Ok, I can stay home and cook Maggi, but it's better if there's somebody coming to look for me and take me out for dinner.. Rather than being alone at home, staring at the 4 walls.. But then, I'm not cacat la, I can still drive out to buy dinner, hehe..

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    2. Princess ....u married already else I don't mind take you out for dinner. Lol ...lol

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    3. Hahahaha, funny ahh you.. Married already still can go out with frens rite.. My hubby always ask me to go out more with frens, rather than staying at home and brooding.. He said he can takecare of the kids at home during weekends, and I can go out.. But I seldom do that la, coz I also very lazy one, malas to go out if I have to drive.. If people come fetch me, then ok, let's go!

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    4. That's mean I need fly over to the east first ? Wahahhha. ..

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    5. hmm....i rather stay home and cook instant noodles(dont like texture of maggi) I cook other brand.

      Even if I go pasar malam, I wont sit there alone and eat lor. will tapau and go home eat those by the time home the boodle or whatever would have been cold.

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    6. haha, cook maggie mee at home also need a company?? hmm, then these people surely cannot stay alone and must always have somebody together lor..

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  10. Good morning bloggers! We came alone to this world and would someday leave alone too. The most painful sickness for old and aged people is Loneliness. I have read this statement in several websites and met lonely old people who had much regrets. It was too late to turn back the clocks for many of them.

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    1. some say we start dying from the day we are born.

      at times we need companionship la.

      If old people or someone who is left alone too much will be come lonely and become depressed. can even lead to suicide leh. Serious leh

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    2. but it's how one actually perceives being alone and loneliness.. but of course we all believe that no man is an island, as long as one is happy with their own life, we cannot judge them with our own perceptions :)

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  11. Most of the aged and lonely ones I met even have children or spouse who had passed away. That means they were pretty occupied with families, kids or spouse earlier on but they became alone and sad towards the end. The kids have grown up with families and may be staying with the aged parent but they failed to understand the needs of the lonely parent surviving under their care. They hardly have time to chat with them or bring them the little happiness they yearned for. There is no need to point fingers but to take preventive measures.

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    1. What I would advise is that being married is not always bliss or guaranteed a happy family life with the laughters of children and grandchildren! I have seen too many friends who never stopped worrying for money and would cry instead of laugh at their kids' rotten and demanding behaviour! The list would go on longer and my friends would utter that they wished they were never married so young or at all. All the money saved and headaches they endured would have been better spent on vacations and luxury lifestyles. At the end of the day, I feel that being single or married have both pros and cons.

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    2. I may be married very late in life but my wife and I are happy to mingle with all our single friends whether they are straights, gays, divorcees or crooked people. We are after all humans with hearts and minds with same objectives to live happily on earth. i would remember their birthdays and often invited them to home cooked meals or coffee chats at Starbucks.

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    3. Agree with what you say there.. As always, you are always intellectual and have many things to talk about regardless of the topic.. I think I’m one of the fella categorized in your comment.. Life is not a bed of roses where I can fall into it and still feel happy about it..

      There are many stuffs which I need to worry along the way, which I think you have already knew by now..
      1) First, it was sending Kz to a nursery when I had G becoz the nanny couldn’t handle another kid.
      2) Then it was Kz’s kindy issue which made me and my mum argued a little..
      3) Next, Kz’s transportation issue which made me beg my neighbor and seek help (the plan never worked today, just fyi, if you wana know. First, they went on a long CNY holiday, then my kid had pox, then her kid had it too, and now, her kid has stopped going to the kindy until further notice coz getting fever on off, so her in laws are here to takecare of the kid).. Pfffttt, *until further notice*.. Can you imagine my feeling? Begging help from people is never easy, at the end of the day, better to do it by ourself..
      4) Then it was the crazy nanny issue, if you remember..
      5) Now, latest issue – mum cannot tahan anymore and says she is very tired taking care of G, asks us to take him back and look for nanny/solutions asap.

      I’m feeling like crap now.

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    4. No regrets or whatsoever.. But, am just thinking.. Read: Just Thinking.. If I had only 1 kid, then things are much easier now..

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    5. Married or single also headache la. Try to manage your problems. If you have no problems, you are not alive. lol...

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    6. true, either way there's bound to be problems. It all depends on how we see and solve it. Anyway, stay happy and everything will be solved gradually. I bet we still need company and don't be too lonely.

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    7. Princess Ribbon: Treasure your marriage life, not many people can meet their Mr Right and get married and have kids, so don't be discouraged.

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    8. Anay,
      Both hubby and me agree that we will not depend solely on our son upon our old age.

      Rather, we hope to age and if still in good health, pursue our interests. No point in being a martyr and be all self-sacrifing for others yet we neglect our own well-being. When others "left" us, we feel abandoned and depressed.

      Rather, let's enjoy our own company when we can. Be independent! Rejoice life!

      Eh... what am I crapping about? Meet topic ah?

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    9. "If you have no problems, you are not alive. lol..." Chris Au, you cracked me up!!!

      Princess Ribbon - you thought your headaches was big but you could still manage and overcome it. I have met bloggers whose no ending problems could reach the mountain tops! Scary and I run away......

      Lina and hubby are very wise! My friends asked me who will take care of me when I am old? I asked them back the same and they replied their kids will do. I told them to dream on.

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    10. When all bloggers turn old age, we will keep the PC as companion and all online bloggers as friends. Make sure we remember our passwords before getting dementia. Write the passwords in big letters on the wall. Hope SK will outlive everyone so that we will not be lonely lah.

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    11. wow, TM brought up a rather serious topic about life.. and yes, i always agree with points he raises on how we can lead a better and more positive life, it's all wise advices from things he has seen and experience throughout his years of being a human.. anyway, what i may want to add on is, be it companied or alone, lonely or not lonely, what we must do is love ourselves and love our own life.. be happy with what we had and what we have and what we are going to have :)

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  12. I would strongly advise everyone to make as many friends as possible be it casual or close buddies. Only friends would be the essential ones to keep us happier and away from loneliness during old age when money and health becomes less important during twilight years.

    How to make friends, we might ask? We have to make the move first and give our all to expect good friendships to grow. I always remember this little poems that were popular during my primary days!

    Between the sea and the sky,
    The ship is passing by.
    Between you and I,
    Our friendship will never die....

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    1. I've tried a lot, but mostly maybe 10 times only 1 time success which is become my only friend that I dare to ask out, the rest argh...many excuses one, but what can I say is I can't generalized everyone, very awkwardly this friendship thing always is my biggest problem that I can't solve and start to blame myself is my face problem so is hard to get a friend and I'm a difficult person so no one wants to friend with me, so just take it and accept it!!! =]

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    2. Wah ...welll said TZ. Lets go cruise everyone!!

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    3. maybe I can make you my good friend, 小影. maybe one day I will meet you up in KL. You seem to be a nice cute girl. Anyway, don't feel discouraged. Just smile and make friends with everyone. If they don't accept us as friends, just find others. The world is full of people!

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    4. Ok, will visit your blog, 小影. Stay cheerful and happy!!

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    5. Wenn, you're so sweet la...make me want to cry already!!! Thank you so much!!! =D

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    6. I can relate with you 小影,sometimes it is not that we don't want to make friends, it is just that when we ask people out, sometimes they give many excuses and always end up we are the ones who take the initiative to date people out. I agree with you.

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    7. TM, what a nice and meaningful poem!

      Well, friends are indeed important to have but then sometimes it's not easy to find a true and sincere one....

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    8. 小影 should meet this Wenn. You will understand why I call her WENNder Woman! LOL... She is so hyper active and inspire me not to be lazy like a tortoise! Muahahahaha

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    9. WENNder woman, LOL! You are very creative lo TM!

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    10. yeah, friends are indeed very important people around us besides our families.. but then we have to be very careful too, there have been just too many unhappy experiences people get from friends, those are whom you may want to stay away from.. if we could have one, and just one very best friend who is trustworthy and cares about us and one whom you can rely on, that would be very sufficient :)

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    11. Yah, the good one will influenced to have good attitude or good habit, but some friends just can influenced the other friends to get addicted to gamble, alcohol or even drugs...=[

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  13. 我都幾享受一個人。食飯/睇戲/行街/旅行都可以一個人或者兩個人最多。

    不過血拼我就堅持一個人; 可能唔同品味褂,總覺得浪費時間。

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    1. 我其實都冇話堅持不堅持嘅, 有人陪冇人陪都好, 最緊要係自己要開心啫.. :)

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  14. Oh, this morning I was just telling my friend that I don't like to eat alone anywhere... i prefer to buy back to office or eat at home... till today I am still self conscious of eating alone outside...
    Traveling of course.. must have company.. at least one..and also must click well with me.. my friend had a nightmare when she traveled with her friend who was entirely different when it comes to staying 24/7... hahaha...
    But when it comes to shopping, marketing and whatever errands to run, I do them all alone.. :)

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    1. me too, Claire. I don't like to eat alone outside but I don't mind at all at home.
      I need company when traveling too. Otherwise, I would feel awkward.
      Shopping and other personal affair are best done alone. No fun shopping with others as we may not have the same liking.

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    2. I can eat alone, but not during peak hours, like lunch time or dinner time, hehe.. Like if I want to eat alone, I do it first thing when I reach the mall, like 10.30am or 11am latest.. Later than that, I rather shop first, then on the way back just tapao..

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    3. Auntie Claire ...but whenever i ask you out to makan ...u siam ... always not around.

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    4. Aha!!! What did you do Chris at your last meeting? Were you drunk? You find her last minutes, surely she went missing la.

      I also cannot travel alone! I would rather stay at home than travel alone but I prefer shopping alone!

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    5. TZ - no la, she too busy with her kids... lol. Everytime I go back is CNY, all busy!

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    6. Chris, you don't talk la... always busy as a bee too... coming back to Ipoh when everything is not nice... food in Ipoh taste the lousiest during CNY... hahahaa...

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    7. i think i am fine with doing things alone lah, eating shopping or watch movie.. but then if traveling, it's good to have someone with me, but not too many because it can be a hassle traveling in a big group..

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  15. All said, I still like to have company to be occupied with news and gossips too. Interestingly, I like company from those that I hardly see. So much to talk and laugh about. That makes me real happy.

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    1. Haha yea, like I love to catch up with Yan and Yvonne and the rest of my ex colleagues from IT department! At least can keep myself up-to-date a bit, hehehe!

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    2. ah, of course it would be nice to catch up with friends whom you have not been seeing for some time :)

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  16. SK, I like this post. I am an example of someone who is comfortable being by themselves. I don't think I have ever felt lonely before. But that does not mean I don't enjoy the company of family and friends. If I am doing some serious shopping (buy clothes, shoes, books which is not that often) I prefer to shop alone. I can take my own sweet time to decide and choose. And I won't bore other people. My partner comes with me for grocery shopping and somehow I enjoy shopping with him. I used to eat alone when I was younger but now it feels awkward. I would rather tapau.

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    1. yeah, shopping alone is not that boring and pathetic really huh?? i always buy more things if i shop alone, haha.. and eating alone, it depends, sometimes i will tapao but then i am actually fine with eating there alone, of course would be a quick one.. :)

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  17. I like this post ! Exactly, depending what I do, I can do it alone or I also prefer people to accompany me.

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    1. When I;m in the kitchen, I don't like ppl to disturb me. I prefer to bake when everyone is sleeping. But I hardly can do it now coz I will be sleepy by the time everyone sleep. haha.... I have not been baking for so long now. :(

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    2. But when goes traveling, I need ppl to accompany me. It will be weird to travel alone and just like you say, I need ppl to take picture of me ! haha

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    3. I love to shop alone. No disturbance and not too many comments. I can't handle too many comments by people when I wanted to buy something. Ended up, i might simply buy. But if I shop alone, stress free. I can make up my own mind and take my own sweet time to pick and choose.

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    4. I definately cannot go for movie alone. I scare to sit beside stranger on both sides. haha.....

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    5. I prefer to be alone in the kitchen too. I dislike my children disturbing me when I am preparing for our meals.

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    6. Haha of course we prefer to be alone in the kitchen, unless if there's really helpful helpers around, who will not create chaos like little kids do (But then it's good to involve them in some cooking/baking too).
      And another situation good to be alone is in the bathroom of course, haha xD (please don't shoot me, I just wanna be honest)
      When Aden was about 1 year old, he started to become so clingy and I must be within his eyesight, so everytime go toilet also must tag him along... Plus I cannot have peace of mind also la if leave him outside alone cause who knows what will happen right?
      Even now he is still like this, will cry when he din't see me, but since he's much elder and can understand better now, I just tell him I wanna go toilet and ask him to be good and wait outside, without making any fuss, sometimes he is ok, sometimes also will keep on knocking on the door... Sigh.... Life as a mother :p

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    7. hahaha, different people would have different preference huh?? while i enjoy both company and being alone, but i still think i am more towards alone because i don't really like a huge company also.. the nice number of people to hang around with for me, probably not more than 6.. the larger the group, it tends to be more difficult to actually interact with everyone..

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  18. Hee hee, I had similiar topic in my blog recently, for me, sometimes I prefer to be alone such as shopping because same as you, I end up buying nothing in a group but at times I prefer to have company such as at times I prefer to eat with someone, having company, you can share things but sometimes there maybe misunderstanding, and being alone, you don't have to think how to please the other party.

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    1. yeah, sometimes i can only buy things when i shop alone.. if with friends, usually i am the one who keep pestering them to buy more, hahaha~~ :D

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  19. I like this topic, being alone doesn't have to mean lonely, sometimes even if you are in a crowd, you may feel lonely if you don't click, but of course if you can find like-minded friends, it is good to have company... but I can fully agree with 小影 sometimes it is not easy to make friends, because sometimes you ask someone out, they will come up with many excuses like not free lah, not convenient, don't want lah, etc etc, end up always I am the one who take the initiative to date someone out, so sometimes when you are single, you hope to have a companion or what they call soulmate, but being married, doesn't mean blissful also, because 家家有本难念的经

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    1. yes, you are so right i cannot agree with you more!! being alone doesn't mean lonely, and being with other people may not mean you are not lonely.. i guess it's how we can click with the company huh?? :)

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  20. Sometimes even if you are married, I always strongly believe that you can still go out with your friends, doesn't mean you should always stick to your husband or wife, but it seems it is not like that for me, all my married friends all lost contact with me, and seldom go out with me, and always stick to their husband, maybe they are too busy with their family and kids, but if I am married, I will still go out with my friends, girlfriends of course lah, if not my husband will misunderstand or get jealous.

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    1. Agree, that's why I am ok that hubby still goes out for beer session with his gang every Saturday night. And myself, still joining my girl friends for some girl talks occasionally, but I don't get to do this very often cause most of my girl friends are outstation, can only meet them during special occasion like CNY, or during someone's wedding. That's why I treasure each gathering and will my best to attend to it, and insist on taking photos as memory, though just a short meet up at a very ordinary cafe =)

      I think it's important to balance up la, family is important but that doesn't means we should ignore our friends. Especially for the gentlemen, cause if they just stick to their wives, their friends will say 有异性无人性,LOL! xD

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    2. ah, right, i think we can never do away with friends no matter what our marital status is or at what stage of life we are at.. it's social life and i am sure everyone has and needs that.. friends come very naturally as people important to us, of course i mean those really close friends whom we can rely on lah.. :)

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  21. I am someone who can enjoy my solitaire time or enjoy being in a group but usually I prefer to go out with one friend and not in a big group.

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    1. Yea,if just with 1 or 2 close friends is very fun also, rather than one big group. Sometimes can be very noisy, haha!

      Like the previous tours I went with hubby, we joined other people from other states as well, sometimes the group is so big that it can be up to 100 people! So we were separated into 3 buses and man it sure wasn't a pleasant experience, cause imagine if 1 person late then the whole members in the bus have to wait for him/her and that is so waste of time! Sometimes even can affect the itinerary. So that's why traveling in a smaller group also got its pros, though it might not be as happening already la!

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    2. yes, me too!! i actually think a small group will do and don't really prefer a big group, it's gets tough and more complicated if there are too many people in a group..

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  22. When I am alone, things I like to do is go online, blog, interact with my blogger friends like SK you. Nowadays I am already "trained" to be alone and independent but of course, I still enjoy the company of friends, just that human relationships sometimes can be very complicated and humans tend to have misunderstandings among themselves so sometimes it is better to be alone because you will not quarrel with yourself! Hee hee

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    1. Hmm you got a point also... The more people the more conflicts/misunderstandings, though sometimes those are very minor ones....
      So I guess there are just pros and cons of being alone and being with people, just depends on how we think, and what's the situation....

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    2. ah yes, that's a good point.. too many people and things can be complicated and surely there will be more chances of conflicts and misunderstandings to happen.. i surely do not like that to happen, it just feels irritating, so i always prefer a smaller group of close friends :)

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  23. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses so human relationships can be very complicated and it takes one party to give in to the other party sometimes, and it is not unusual for couples or husband and wife to quarrel also, but 所谓床头吵架,床尾和。Sometimes one party have to give in and say sorry and it takes a lot of trust, compromise, love and tolerance to maintain a relationship.

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    1. yeah, relationship is a mutual thing and it's not just centered around one person only.. we learn to give and take, and we learn from each other.. :)

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  24. This blog post really ngam me and I can rant like nobody business hee hee, by the way, where is Sharon, hee hee, seems like she is missing.

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    1. haha, yeah, i can see this topic is so ngam for you because you commented a lot this time :)

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  25. First time I comment so long and yet I feel a bit pai-seh, scare people think that I am long-winded, hee hee, anyway, what I want to say is, last time before all my friends are married, I always have a lot of programmes, today go movie, tomorrow go karaoke, another day go makan, always packed with activities and programmes, never a single day lonely, which is why sometimes I miss my past life very much.

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    1. Hey Libby, never afraid of being said long-winded in SK's blog!! Being long-winded is the key to spam here, so keep on being long-winded and I am sure you will get better ranking this month ;)
      Of course, this is my personal opinion.... I know some people is not intend to spam to get into the ranking, they only want to comment ;)

      Yea I can relate to that. When we are single we sure have more freedom and more things in mind to do. Last time I was like that too! Every Saturday night is a clubbing/yum cha night, and we'll be talking what to do/where to go the next day since everyone is off from work... Go here and there jalan jalan cari makan... We can even go on an ad hoc trip!
      But when we got older, and everyone started to have family, things are not that easy anymore. I mean we can still organize gathering and all but cannot be that frequent already, and must be planned in advance cause we have to adjust to one another, including each's personal matters.

      Well, that's the life cycle la...

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    2. i guess the most important thing is that while we cherish our olden days, we also appreciate what we have now and then look forward to what we will be having in the future.. just stay happy!! :)

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  26. SK, you are a people magnet, I have similiar topic in my blog but I only get 6 comments, and yet you can get over 90 comments, you really a people magnet leh, how you do that, hee hee

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    1. Hehehe, now that's another term to describe SK! People's magnet ;)

      I guess it's because each of us have different followers la, I am like you also Libby, I am sure if I blog the same topic, I will also get 10 comments only...
      Here in SK's blog, we tend to spam a lot (pssstt, because of the chart) so naturally there're lots of comments in each post ;)

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    2. haha, no lah.. thanks for the support from all the readers who care to drop comments for me.. really appreciate that!! :)

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  27. See? We all love you so much, but of cos you do appreciate our efforts, got personalized CD some more, so you are really "Dai Sack" (cantonese).

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    1. haha, sounds like everyone commented because of the personalized CD only?? hehe :p

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    2. Really??? But that's not the main reason for me to comment lol!!! Wahahaha~~~~

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  28. Now, instead of dating my friends, everyday I have a "date" with SK, everyday must visit his blog and see what new post he have, hee hee.

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    1. Way to go Libby! I can see you comment more and longer in this post ;)

      Yea agree, it's like a daily must-do-job now to blog hop and spam SK's blog!!

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    2. yeah, today Libby is so excited, she commented a lot!! this topic so ngam for her huh?? :)

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  29. Good evening SK and everyone, i'm late today...

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    1. Sometimes, i just need some times on my own, so occasionally i ok to be alone...

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    2. yeah, being alone or have company, it all depends on situation :)

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  30. Good evening ladies and gentlemen!!

    This must be an interesting topic, attracted so many comments already, and I can see each comment is kinda long wo.. Looks like all of us can relate to this topic ;)

    Actually like you said SK, it depends very much on the situations, and also the mood of that time. And there're things which are better to do alone, and some better with a bunch of friends. So I guess it just depends on individual la! Same here, I do not think alone means lonely la, some people just don't get used to have someone besides him/her, and eventually he/she used to being alone and that can be happy and enjoyable as well!
    I too have no problem eating alone, but if let say there's no seats around, then I'll prefer tapao~
    Watching movie alone, well I have never done that yet! But I'd sure want to experience it some day, if I have the chance! It must be a whole different experience, hehehe.. Most of the times I go cinema with hubby, and sometimes with friends.. But if can try watching movie alone, that could be fun too... Moreover, we just need to concentrate on the movie so it doesn't matter if there's anyone beside us or not, kakakak!

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    1. Shopping alone? Well, that's one thing I am sure I am okay with! In fact, I enjoy shopping alone! I just it so relaxing, I can walk into any shops I like, I can take my own sweet time in the fitting room and I can leave anytime I want, without the need of thinking that 'someone' is out there waiting for me!
      Of course shopping with someone (like our partner) has its own fun la, like when paying time, hubby must be present, LOL! (Haha just try to be honest la...)

      Anyway, my point is, shopping alone is not a bad thing at all. I used to go shopping with bunch of friends during Uni time and honestly, it was kinda waste of time... I mean each of us have different purpose, different taste and different things that we wanna see/buy. For example, friend C wants to buy laptop so she walks into a computer shop, but what happens to the rest of the friends? Have to teman her in the shop also... And that could spent few minutes even up to an hour! Of course we can excuse ourselves la but then again feel paiseh lo leaving the friend alone in the shop.... Unless if that friend voice out automatically that we don't necessarily have to wait for her and can go first...
      Sometimes the waiting of here and there is quite boring and waste of time, so I will still prefer to go shopping alone!!

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    2. Well, sometimes travelling alone is not a bad thing also la but to me, that depends on where we are going. If the place is safe, not many security-related issues/news, friendly people, then go traveling on a short trip is ok la...
      Then if going to those got communication barriers punya country, that one better go with friends/family lo... Imagine we already feel insecure with the communication barrier, then worse if we are all alone, it can be a scary and worrying experience.
      Better still if got someone who stays there, can have free tour guide/translator, haha!

      You talk about people taking photo for us, haha good point wo! I never thought of that also, hehe! Otherwise need to pack the tripod along, which can be quite troublesome la!
      And sometimes when we can take photos with others together, this will make the whole picture looks more complete, rather than just ourselves with the scenery....

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    3. yeah, i guess we would always prefer a nice company to do things together which would be more fun.. but then when it comes to company, of course it would only be fun if we click well with the people lah.. if all the people also not ngam and not the same channel, then i think i would choose to be alone instead, haha!! so far, i've done all the above alone before.. eat alone, shop alone, watch movie alone and even go travel alone.. but then not purposely plan a trip to go alone lah, just that i went on company business trip, and then extended my stay to go around, that one consider alone also right?? actually not too bad lah, just have to learn to enjoy yourself while you are having that "me time" lor, it's another kind of experience i would say :)

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  31. I love being alone! LOL!

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    1. You are a panda and they eat bamboos alone. Selfish animal. Muahahahaha

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    2. yeah, people who love being alone are people who enjoy life!!

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  32. I don't mind eating alone. I don't mind watching movies alone. I don't mind traveling alone. I don't mind going anywhere alone.

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    1. great!! and you are surely never bored of doing anything!! :)

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  33. But it's nice to eat with a friend. It's nice to watch movie with someone. It's nice to travel with friends. It's nice to go out with friends.

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    1. You said you like to be alone and don't mind do things alone in earlier comments. Now you say is is nice to have someone!!! Pandas are strange animals.

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    2. yeah, he just copy and paste his comments, and then amend a little bit lah..

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  34. But I can only shop alone! I can't shop with friends. No way. I need to shop alone! :D

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    1. muahaha, one day i will follow Panda to shop!! and see what he buys :p

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  35. Sometimes I prefer to eat alone than with someone. I sometimes prefer to eat and enjoy my food alone while I check Twitter, Facebook and other activities online than talking with a friend.

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    1. I eat alone when I shop alone. No issue with that.. But if it's peak hours or lunch hours, I will prefer to take away.. I prefer to do everything fast.. I'm kinda rushy person.. I don't like dilly-dally people, hehe, so I tend to do things very fast.. Fast fast reach the place, park, get down, eat first, then walk like nobody's business (coz I already know what to buy before i reach the place), grab what I want, go home, nap! Haha..

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    2. yeah, eating alone is perfectly fine for me.. but of course when i eat alone, it will be a quick one lah.. just order, eat and then leave.. don't really like to linger in that eatery at all..

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  36. I actually find it unnecessary to watch a movie with someone. Cos most of the time, I just want to enjoy the movie without bothering to talk which is distracting.

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    1. hahaha, depends on what time of movies maybe.. those that make you cry, you wouldn't want your friend to see you crying, haha.. those that make you laugh, probably you want somebody to laugh together :)

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  37. I like to go on solo travel - most of the time I enjoy the freedom to do whatever I like. Compare with going with friends, I always have problems with balancing the things I wanna do and the things my friends wanna do. Unless my friends and I have the exact same interests, I feel it's better for me to travel solo, although going with friends can be fun too :)

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    1. Foongpc - I join u la .... go where this time ? Bangkok again ?

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    2. yeah, some times when traveling can split and do whatever each person likes to do, it's perfectly fine.. i tried that before, everyone has different preferences, so just split but then meet up again for dinner together.. with that, everyone gotta do what they like and want.. i find this workable, but i won't purposely plan a trip that i'll go alone lah.. :)

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  38. Came back today to checkout the replies, whoa, 125 comments liao! And SK himself not yet even put his replies in.. I thought 125 comments include SK's comments, but eh, no wor.. Wah, SK, lei hou geng! Lei hai tak geh!

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    1. Haha, SK memang very geng! He got many many supporters, erm should I say, loyal supporters ;)
      I think he deserves it la, since his blog is always interesting one, with all the charts and yearly gifts and all... And I can see he himself also leave a lot of long comments in other people's blog, so it's kinda 'lei seong wong loi' (礼尚往来) ^^

      By the way, where is SK? Busy with works? Really din't see his comments....

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    2. haha, no lah, only slightly more than 100 comments mah.. errr, no lah, purposely wait till everyone finish commenting only i reply sekaligus lor.. like that easier lah, so that i don't have to scroll up and down searching for comments to reply to mah :)

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  39. I like shopping alone (the only thing I will do alone!)

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    1. yeah, shopping alone is not boring and not pathetic at all but most of the time very fruitful~~ :D

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  40. No man is an island...but I do enjoy being alone, doing things alone.

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    1. i enjoy having a nice company as well as being alone.. just be happy with what we are doing~~ :)

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