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08.10.2013 | 婚宴盛會

[Volume 8 Issue 10, #1800]
唔係~~ 大家唔好誤會我結婚呀, 哈哈!! 其實係因為最近頻頻出席咗幾個婚宴, 所以有啲嘢講啫, 再準確啲, 應該話係馬來西亞傳統華人婚宴.. 大家放心, 我唔係要分享婚宴食咗啲咩, 相信大家都出席過婚宴, 來來去去都係嗰九道菜, 實在唔明有咩好寫?? 我想話嘅呢, 其實係婚宴儀式嘅鋪排.. 一對新人全場注目下浪漫溫馨入場, 屬全晚高潮, 絕對理所當然.. 不過一輪高漲情緒之後, 緊接囉落嚟係每一間酒家都堅持要搞嘅「出菜儀式」, 我覺得好無聊, 現場氣氛當堂連跌幾watt, 印象中非要用呢一首《The Final Countdown》前奏作背景音樂不可.. 而星期日一個婚宴嘅「出菜儀式」, 竟然出動到點心車, 我爭啲笑到碌地!!

不過慶幸嘅係, 近年嘅婚宴都好似免去講嘢永遠高八度嘅大妗姐做司儀, 取而代之係酒家經理適而可止嘅主持, 至少耳根可以比較清靜.. 而個人感到最欣慰嘅係, 罷 - 免 - 卡 - 拉 - OK - 歌 - 唱 - 環 - 節!! 我仍然好記得嗰一次, 大妗姐成個樂壇天后咁由場外一路唱到上台, 唱嘅竟然係呢一首歌!! 而好多賓客又越唱越勇, 竟然可以唱出令人汗顏嘅慘情歌, 噢埋葛, 好恐怖!! 所以冇咗卡拉OK係明智之舉呀.. 而我個人最喜歡嘅環節, 當然係飲勝啦, 我同家人嗰台通常都係嗌得最中氣十足, 飲到最長最大聲嘅, 我覺得好好玩, 哈哈!! :D
nope~~ please don't misunderstand it's my wedding, haha!! it's just because i've attended a few wedding dinner lately and i have something to say, to be more precise, i should say malaysian chinese traditional wedding dinner.. no worries, i am not going to share what i ate, i believe everyone has attended one before, and we all know it's none other than that nine standard dishes, really don't understand what's so special to blog about the food?? anyway, what i wanted to say is actually about the agenda of the wedding dinner.. the newly-wed couple march into the hall in the most romantic arrangement watched by every eye of the guests, which i think it's the highlight of the night, never tired of that.. but right after the march-in, it's the compulsory "dish serving ceremony" insisted by the restaurants, i think it's rather redundant and turns the sweet ambiance into a boring scene, in my impression it seems all restaurants must use the score of "The Final Countdown" as the background music and none other songs else.. that "dish serving ceremony" on sunday even had the dimsum cart, which made me almost laughed rolling on the floor!!

anyway, what i feel happy with in recent years is that most have their restaurant managers as the emcee rather than the usual ever-high-pitch dai kum jeh (DKJ, traditional wedding ceremony coordinator), at least our ears don't need to suffer anymore.. to add on, comes the most exciting part, i would say it must be that KARAOKE SESSION IS BANNED!! there was once the DKJ walked into the hall and sang all the way onto the stage like a diva, scaringly what she sang was this song!! furthermore there would be some guests who can't stop once they sing, entertaining no one but only themselves by singing utterly sad love songs!! OMG, can you imagine how shockingly dreadful that could be?? hence, banning karaoke session is really a wise move.. to me, the best moment is always the yum sing (toast) session, the table of my family is often shouting the longest and loudest of all, it's sure fun, haha!! :D
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    1. I think Karaoke session is the norm these days. At one dinner I went to, they even had two kids (maybe 6 or 7 years old) entertaining us. Of all the dinners I attended, there was only one karaoke session that was of really good standard and that I enjoyed all the numbers.

      There's one dinner that kept playing a broken-hearted song. How can? I was told it's the choice of the groom somemore. Aiyah!

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    2. Yeah choice of songs are crucial. Wow SK that DKJ sang Sammi Cheng's hot number? Phew! Did she dance like Sammi in the video? Wa lau!!!!

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    3. Yea...I also dont understand why at happy event they go and sing those sad songs. I know la some they say karaoke mah but then have to be sensitive to enviroment la....people getting married or having full moon or birthday...then those people pulak sing sad song

      wah the groom really terror ah.....choose sad song for his own wediing

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    4. Sad because kena force kawin izit? :P

      Or sad "freedom" no more.

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    5. LOL.....hey there is really a song in chinese about losing freedom you know....it's a song to make people laugh punya. I dont know the title..maybe Ah Boy can't google or see YouTube search for that song

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    6. Yeah, Ah Boy!

      Can find and share ah?

      Plus with translation, pleasssseeee?

      Hihihi

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  2. Vanakum! Good morning HappySurfer

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    1. Eh so ngum one! Wanted to post about wedding dinners coz attended two dinners back to back in same hotel luckily one on Sat and the other Sunday

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    2. At dinners loud songs or music could hinder us to talk and interact with friends.

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    3. Good morning, Bananaz! Ho boh?

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    4. Ho ho ho chin ho kamsia lu pun sama sama ho

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  3. Morning SK... I attended one whereby the during the march-in, the groom played the guitar and singing to the bride.. macam macam la now.. and they got 4 seasons in the banquet hall.. 1 corner spring, another corner summer, then fall then winter somemore ahh..Eh by the way, the dish song now no more Final Countdown loooo.. Became Gangnam style liao..

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    1. I have not attend wedding in Malaysia before, curious if wedding in Malaysia and Singapore, any different...

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    2. The weddings in Malaysia and Singapore is the same la unless you attended the one got 2 Men got married and kissed each other. Eeeyeeerrrrr Yiaks.

      Our ang pows also lesser so you will save lots of money for 9 delicious dishes. I rugi when I attended a cousin-in law's wedding at Conrad Hotel in Singapore. The ang pow was RM1000. OMG!!!! I ate every damn thing and took home all the door gifts & table cloth! Oh yeah my 2 nights hotel added another RM800.

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  5. I've only gone to a few Chinese weddings, but all must have karaoke session, eh? Hahaha

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    1. Not must have karaoke session but most will have it. Coz when we book the venue the hotel/restaurant will normally include those in for free.

      So people will make use of it lo

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    2. So it's like rugi if not fully utlise, eh? Hahaha

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    3. I hate the karaoke weddings with loud speakers blasting at deafening pitch while the pariah singers crooned terribly. Even the dead could wake up and walk home.

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  6. So I opine no karaoke session at Ah Boy's wedding then? ;-)

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    1. alamak...have to google "opine" ....learn new word today.

      ah boy wedding no karaoke but have those dancing performance...think the hall will be decorated with banana trees and coconut trees so that guests can dance under them

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    2. I tunjuk pandai saja.

      What exactly does "opine" means anyway.

      Anyway, Meow bukan dalam novel ada banyak guna in word ka? Hehehe

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    3. Meow always so humble and pretend dunno one.

      So unlike Lina who likes to show off and tunjuk pandai. LOL

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    4. I agree with Mak Glam on this well-read Mamarazzi who tries to Alim Kucing and buat bodoh! Phiak her pussy head and knot her tail!!! Wakakakakaka

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    5. From online dictionary

      o·pine
      ōˈpīn/
      verb
      formal
      verb: opine; 3rd person present: opines; past tense: opined; past participle: opined; gerund or present participle: opining

      1.
      hold and state as one's opinion.
      "“The man is a genius,” he opined"

      LOL.....Iread aje...but when comes to words that I dont understand i will simply agak agak the meaning...lazy to check dictionary....

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    6. Bananaz would sokong no karaoke but to some cannot tahan without karaoke so tadaoke for them. Oh the food presentation song..my friend was making fun with "The Final Cow Dung"

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    7. Meow,
      Now you give me headache la...

      I am bodoh one. Never use dictionary. Tak tau baca pun all those squiggle squiggle in the dictionary. LOL

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    8. wahahaha....that is a good one The Final Cow Dung

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  7. Good Morning Bloggers! This is interesting topic to share our stories as we have all attended many types of weddings. I need some minutes to tune my clock back to the overseas weddings I had seen. I actually loved to attend weddings, never mind the monetary and gifts for the price to pay. The gathering to celebrate for the young or old couple's unity are priceless. I can easily write out 20 comments today!

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    1. Brace for Anay's story on weddings soon!

      Just kidding Anay.

      But please share.

      I know you have plenty of wedding experiences and of course most are the jet-setting crowd. :)

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    2. Hmmmm...Of all types of wedding I think I like the buffet type better. People eat then can go.

      It's not what la but Chinese sit down dinner usually takes 4-5hours.

      Plus with all those loud "music" blasting here and there....adui...sakit kepala.

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    3. I went to a few where they serve Halal food for Muslims guests. They served in one shot and we finished eating like less than one hour but had to wait and sit around for the Chinese banquet makan to finish.

      Boring dei!

      Tahan a bit then later all quietly slink off because for what wait another two-three hours see other people still eating. :P

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    4. I have attended several weddings where the hosts were caring and insisted on halal Chinese banquets. So the Muslim friends and VIPs could sit freely to mingle with their gangs. I prefer this type of planning.

      Ah Boy make sure your wedding to the Princess of Borneo is halal banana leaf banquet with lots of monyets and orang utans playing drums to entertain us.

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    5. uiks they serve like that ka? I didnt know.

      last time my company annual dinner they have vegetarian and the halal dinner. Both also serve one dish by one dish. That's why i assume if chinese weddig dinner for halal and non-halal food will also same serve one dish by one dish

      yeah boring la if the serve all together and had to wait for the non halal section finish eating. But if wanna cabut lari after eating pulak rasa not nice.

      Uiks...Kamala is from borneo ah?

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    6. If not Kamala, then maybe Ah Boy's second wife lor. Bwahaha

      Kamala I thought he got married since childhood already? kekeke

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    7. Ah boy married Gila Kamala from the Chennai village while a child. Now he wanna marry a new Chinese monyet from Borneo after he gets his MBA cert. Faham?

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  8. Morning!!! Morning everyone and SK!!! =]

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  9. At first I truly thought that is your wedding!!! Hahahaha~~~

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    1. If that's his wedding, he sure die kena phiak by us all for not inviting us lor.

      Remember SK.

      Must invite all your loyal readers to your wedding tau!

      I will take photos of every single food served and give detailed review about it! MUAHAHA

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    2. double Piak ah Boy if its his wedding and tarak invite me...

      me too will snap photos and put in tiny tiny photos in my blog and let readers guess what kind of food it is :p

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    3. Where got syiok put itsy bitsy teeny weeny photos dei.

      Must shoot close up photos of each dish served and give lengthy explanation about it.

      Consider it your duty as a blogger! Muahaha

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    4. When Ah boy gets married all the HHBC ladies will sure become auto-bride's maids in tow. That will be a spectacle joke to see.

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    5. duty apa....no need duty la...not professional food blogger pun....LOL...if people wanna eat will sure find those recommendation from famous people ler....this peanut blogger and peanut food tarak kelas ler

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    6. All you blogger ladies will hold paper fans and pen to jot down the details to blog lah.

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  10. Actually, I have no idea why they always want to have the "dish serving ceremony" cause it's pointless to have it...!!! =[

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    1. But this with the dimsum cart is quite of funny lo, first time heard about it!!!

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  11. I don't like the dai kum jeh also, they can be very noisy sometimes which end up became annoying!!! =[

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  12. About the karaoke part, I heard this from my friend once, they're some guests even brought their own karaoke CD ask my friend "why you don't have the karaoke session?"

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    1. Also, I've one uncle always like to sing in the wedding ceremony, if his voice is good that's not the problem, but he always out of pitch, there's one time, after he had finish the song, we still don't know what was song he sang!!! =.=!!!

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  13. Good morning Ah Boy and everyone :)

    today topic about Chinese wedding ah? LOL....errr...not confined to wedding only leh...at birthday banquet also same leh...at times there are the dish serving ceremony and also Karaoke session leh

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    1. Like the one you posted about recently Meow.

      So happening la itu birthday celebration. Until midnight pun belum habis wor.

      Birthday boy sure got lotsa energy to tahan until that late! :P

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    2. minum a lot of tongkat ali kot.......:p


      but luckly this one tarak karaoke session la....the singing part they hired professional to do it. They have english songs and chinese songs la.

      Even the grand daughter who wrote the song is a professional song writter i think...

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    3. Then should be very enjoyable la eh? That's why everyone still was merry-making till wee hours of the morning including the "tongkat-ali" drinking birthday boy! Hahaha

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    4. Everyone still merry making coz only once in a blue moon get to meet so many relatives in the ballroom lor...Chinese will say talk till Ayam patuk tak putus. Lucky tarak serve heavy liqour like in the old days else sure people will be singing "Jin Tien Bu Huei Jia"(Today no go home.

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    5. No serve heavy (expensive) liquor the guests didn;t complain ah?

      Later got people hint the party *cheap* only. xD

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    6. These days people serve cheap red wines instead of Brandy which will run into thousand ringgits. Even beer also make people mabuk and fight inside men's toilets. Wine looks class and tastes nicer with the food we eat at the wedding dinners.

      Ah Boy's wedding will serve Fresh toddy kau-kau from the Kapar Village. After drink, Kaldip will go pening and another Small Kucing will come soon.

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  14. Now you said it, it reminded me of one occasion.. my friend's birthday dinner shared with a wedding couple.. true like you said.. one elderly lady sang and sang ... mostly sad love songs.... and one elderly man too.. brought their own CD one.. no joke..so the limelight of the night was this couple only! hahaha...

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  15. Haiz!!!! My poor connection! Let me retype everything again.

    I was saying that the restaurants here have done away with the grand entrance of the first dish - probably they do not have enough waiters/waitresses - one per table and there may be hundreds of tables at some banquets here...but anyway, when they used to do that, I don't think I ever heard "The Final Countdown" but whatever song they had, it was noisy - I never liked it either.

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    1. got final countdown....and the older one is the Kitaro drum thingy...LOL

      my wedding i didnt even know that they have this first dish grand entrance. The hotel didnt tell me and i didnt think of asking. Only on the night itself baru saw...lucky it was not final countdown or the kitaro drum thingy...it was something about swan swimming bla bla

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    2. Swan? Wahhhh!!!! Got Sibu symbol at your wedding kah? Muahahahahaha!!!!

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  16. These days, many that I know would engage a jazz band or a band for light music entertainment. If I were to host a banquet, I would insist on looking at the list of songs in their repertoire. Heartbreak songs like "I will always love you" or "How do I live without you" are definitely inappropriate for weddings. These bands don;t seem to have any idea what songs are suitable and what are not - they simply sing.

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    1. I do agree with you there. some band will simply sing. Never really thing whether it's wedding dinner or what. Sing 5354

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  17. Good afternoon SK and guys! I am back!!

    Wah, new layout ya? Plus the new pop out greetings! Something new for me, haha!
    Yea received your gifts, all in good condition, what a pleasant surprise after I came back from Bangkok!
    Once again, thank you so much!

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    1. Haha of cause we know it wasn't your wedding la! Cause how dare you got married without inviting us the regular spammers right? xD
      Oh you attended several wedding lately? Must be big holes in your wallet huh? :p
      I din't attend any wedding banquets lately, but there're 2 coming next month and December.

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    2. Yea, restaurants love The Final Countdown song right? Same here. Really listen til boring liao~ If not this song then it'll be the famous song by Hitaro.
      They should always change and update the march in theme la~

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    3. And yes, karaoke is not so famous now already. Most people go for band, at least they are 'quieter', more high class, and more romance feel. I hired a band from Penang during my wedding last time, and I was really satisfied with them, so as many of my guests!

      And speaking of karaoke, you know many elderly (those who really can sing and those who really cannot sing) would go up stage singing those sad break up songs, come on la! It's a wedding la!

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    4. Regarding tai kam jeh.... Actually I think it depends on the hosts, they should inform her to act more 斯文 and no singing on stage and etc, cause the hosts pay for her one ma! We can request her to do/not do certain things.

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  18. I love karaoke...and I WILL sing when invited to do so at weddings...but no way will I just go up on stage and say that I wanna sing.

    Karaoke's fine...but if I were the host, I would put a restriction on the singers. Identify those who can really sing and sing well...and put them down in the programme...and I would make sure they sing the "right" songs. Other half-past six singers, I would just tell them...sorry, the programme's full. That would save everybody from the possibility of any kind of audio (and visual) torture.

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    1. But I would have to agree with you to some extent. I once attended a dinner where all the grandpas and grandmas took turns to sing all the ancient Chinese songs. Real headache, such a pain to listen to...like those singing contests for old people on ASTRO but they were all from the hosts' families so what to do? I just smiled and tahan and clapped when each one was done lor...

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    2. But kinda hard to put restriction telling the ones that have voice like frog calling the rain no to sing. After all , everyone invited are friend and family. If say one sing and then dont let the other sing some will be small gas and got angry.

      Moreover during the dinner, the host most likely be busy going round snapping photos with friends and relatives...and also Yum Seng. Not easy to leave note to MC telling the MC only let certain people sing.

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  19. "...i believe everyone has attended one before, and we all know it's none other than that nine standard dishes, really don't understand what's so special to blog about the food??..."

    It still is a free country, isn't it? People can choose to blog about the food if they like. The menu varies from restaurant to restaurant, from town to town and state to state...so no harm if people want to share with friends what they eat...and if not ALL the dishes, the ones they really enjoy.

    I would do so...but not if it's that same popular restaurant and that same menu - you've seen one, you've seen them all...and sometimes, I do not bother because I do not feel nice taking photographs of the food in front of strangers, not very good manners to do that, I would think, that's all.

    Nine there? Gee!!! We have only eight now - seven, in fact, plus one dessert and prices would range around RM500 per table these days. What are the nine that you would have there? See!!! I don't know exactly and I don't mind finding out... Not at all.

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    1. What I cannot stand is when bloggers attend those events...and then when you visit their blogs - 10 blogs you see the same dishes, everything's the same. If I were the host of such events, I would get different bloggers, not all from the same gang to come and attend. Those few bloggers will have those same few readers...so I do not think the promo is going to reach far and wide.

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    2. "Nine there? Gee!!! We have only eight now - seven, in fact, plus one dessert and prices would range around RM500 per table these days. What are the nine that you would have there? See!!! I don't know exactly and I don't mind finding out... Not at all."


      ahem ahem.....shall I start saving for plane tickets and angpow?


      RM500 per table ah???? sure cant get that price over here la...now at least RM1K per table leh Hence per head if going for chinese dinner, angpau must give at least RM100 per head

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    3. Attended two wedding dinners last Sat & Sun in the same hotel guess what? Food all the same except for prawns different style cooking and fried rice changed to fried noodles.

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    4. blerkkkkkk.....I guessthe hotel food they have same set of menu la

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  20. I don't like the yum sing part - long intros....especially if the emcee speaks a language that is Greek to me...and why drag it like that? Is that customary? Any superstition behind that?

    During my growing up years, we did not have that - but the bride and the groom had to go from table to table to drink a toast and thank all the quests face to face - a lot more polite, well-mannered. Of course, not so many tables in those days. This way may be a lot more practical but just do it in a classy formal manner, just propose the toast and a short yum sing will do. Not so loud and not so coarse, I think....and if it's your friend getting married, you can have your own at your own table - invite the couple over and yuuuuuuuuummmmm siiiiingggg to kingdom come, as many times as you like. That should be more personal, more meaningful and also more enjoyable.

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    1. Hmmm Yum seng part is okay la...usually they call the elders from both sides of the family to go up the stage and yell YUM SENG.
      Good opportunity for both sides of the family to snap family photos together.

      After that the bride and groom still go around table by table to yum seng one and snap photos with their guests

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  21. When I got married, it was stress-free as my parents did all the meticulous planning, reservations and invitations plus paying $$ up front in Penang. Even my brother had to get his brand new BMW-525i ready for me. I was indeed the Raja Sehari with floor shows by Penang's Ballroom Champs and singing on stage.

    After the wedding and tolak ang-pow collections to pay the bills, I wanted to scream!!!!!!!

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    1. Got Rose Chan??? @.@!!!!

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    2. These days, here in Sibu, it is customary to add at the bottom of the invitation card: "Gifts of cash or kind are respectfully declined!" I don't know who started that or how it started. Rugi lah getting married in Sibu, sure bankrupt!!!

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    3. LOL. She was watching from heavens I think as she left in 1987.

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    4. Aiyo!!!! Whoever married Borneo gals will pok khai laaar. Ah Boy let's have meeting again on this!!!!!!

      I heard my friends say that Sarawakians love to put ads in the newspaper to congratulate the bridal couple and that's the gift.

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    5. Eh why tarak call me dai kum jie for meeting get...

      ah boy's wedding easy mah...can do over here....can put in the card as "Gifts of cash or kind no less than RM150 per head is expected".

      Aiyo STP....senang aje......Ask Mellisa to find a groom from this side of Malaysia and hold a big wedding over here la. Then wedding invitation card can put as "You don't come, make sure angpau come" Muahahahaha

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    6. I got a friend who bitched about paying the angpow per head for her family. She will only give the "standard rate angpow" for one even though she'll occupy a whole table.

      So kaya some more.

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    7. Yup! The congratulatory messages in newspapers. Actually, it's cheaphere ! RM10 per head only...and the only people laughing all the way to the bank would be the newspaper companies...so now, people also add "congratulatory messages in the newspapers/press" also declined. Unfortunately, it does not stop those representatives waiting at entrances of the banquet venue...waiting to attack you like a hawk. Tsk! Tsk!

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  22. Before I got married, I think I have mentioned that I became the best man for 13 weddings and gained wide experience to make sure mine was spotless and hassle-free to make all the guests happy.

    I had seen many family disputes of my friends before their weddings. I would summarize that it had either to do with ego or $$$. If humans are kind and selfless, the world of weddings would be peaceful.

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    1. yea la...so many dispute pasal Money...

      no only that la wedding dates and things to get for a wedding also one big headache ler. Give kurang one thing then will make noise .

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    2. I also got quarrelled with my mom over my wedding.

      I want a simple wedding. No frills.

      She wanted a grand one to show off to orang kampung.

      In the end, I had to fork out so much money for my wedding footing unnecessary bills because my mom spent it like a rich lady. Yes, my parents didn't fork out a single sen for it. Lucky them, huh?

      I almost wanted to call it off because it wasn't what I wanted.

      Why can't people just have a simple ceremony. Why must it be shameful to do so?

      Eh... why I ramble about it here ah?

      Sorry Ah Boy!

      Release "rasa terpendam" a bit. LOL

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  23. I have attended so many weddings in KL and Penang. The number of divorces and separations were unbelievable!! Mostly were due to 3rd parties and nothing else. The brides themselves made high numbers of betrayers.

    I hope Ah boy will think 10 times before tie the knot. Better still let Anay to interview the bride and let your HHBC aunties to "test" the bride sikit tunjuk ajar as well.

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    1. err.... how to comment....susah comment ...banyak factor leh that lead to divorces

      But mainly the first two years are the hardest la. After that will be better till the 7th year...people say 7 years itch leh

      hey not fair say due to brides themselves made high numbers of betrayers. we 3rd party and its hard to know exactly what transpired between the couple leh.

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    2. I agree with Meow. A bit unfair to just generalise and give a blanket blame on brides on being unfaithful.

      There are many reasons why people do so.

      We do not know every single people's characters. Our friends who we know well might not behave the same way to their spouse.

      Cannot be judgemental about people la.


      Especially not when we might not know all there is about them, inside out.

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  24. I always found the Church Weddings to be more appropriate and nice to see the bridal couple march to the altar after the bride's father has passed her to the groom. That's most touching and all the brides would shed tears. The organ music and nicely dressed guests lining the pews of flowers looked so heavenly.

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    1. The typical Chinese fetch-the-bride sessions are all for maximum laughter with the silliest and stupid games that were invented by the bride's hellish entourage. I enjoyed looking at the Heng Tais getting tortured until all the abusive words came out.

      Once I attended the wedding of our now unpopular "The Bintang" newspaper's Sports editor's son who was also the sports journalist at the Kiara Club. The bride's side tortured the groom's men so teruk but I was not there in the morning when it happened. During the dinner, the video and slides shows were beamed. We saw how terrible and monstrous the groom's men looked like after getting ragged. After the slides show, the groom went on to the stage to thank the guests and invited the bride's maids to go up the stage where he took revenge on them. He made the ladies remove their shoes and stand inside the buckets of ice water for some 30 seconds!!!! The guests were shocked to see all this nonsense.

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    2. sometimes these "Tease the groom" thingy can get out of hand. If those who can take it is not bad la...there were incidents where groom got angry and refused to go on. Bad lah like that

      I think the younger sets of bride maids will tend to be more outrageous...like asking the grooms men to wear banana and pose sexual positions...very bad ler.

      The morning session wedding that I have been to during my time was rather tame. The most horrible that time was ask them to drink the four taste sweet, sour, bitter and spicy. Symbolise the passage of marriage.

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    3. I find every customs and cultures have their own quirks.

      It's a pity to observe that even Malay Muslims who think a Western style wedding looks nicer/grander/more romantic that they are willing to forgo a beautiful Malay customs for it.

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  25. I only remembered there was one worst wedding I attended in Penang more than 20 years ago. It was the wedding of our close friend whose father was the wealthy Gold Merchant who owned a factory that supplied jeweleries to the local and huge market in UAE. So naturally the wedding was big and grand with over 120 tables at the Chinese Town Hall.

    It was not a nice looking layout when I entered the hall as they used those plastic streamers to divide the bride and groom's seating areas. I could see that the groom's side had less than 10 tables only. During the 5th dish, I was standing outside the main door to smoke with old friends. Suddenly we saw a group of men shouting across the street with samurai swords & parangs and charged towards our main door. We all ran all directions and the gangsters started slashing the guests with so many liquor & beer bottles being smashed on heads. Many tables were violently overturned with crying guests screaming and holding their bloody wounds. The hysterical bride and groom ran up the stage to be barricaded by many men who fought the gangsters!! By the time the police arrived, the hall was almost empty. It was never being reported in the newspaper and yet the town hall was located directly opposite our Bintang office. Until today nobody were sure what actually triggered the fights as there were so many possibilities. The bride's father had to issue personal apology to all the bosses of the Goldsmith shops who attended.

    Later when the older daughter got married, the father invited many Arab sheikhs to attend and he hired over 100 security guards & bodyguards to screen all the guests. I was in US and my parents attended the dinner with great disbelief. LOL.

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    1. gosh......that is scary leh.....lucky cabut lari fast.

      Maybe the gangster asked for protection money for the big wedding but the host refused to pay gua .....

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  26. 哈哈哈,罷免卡拉OK歌唱環節!!!果然精明嘅抉擇。

    不過呢個年代仲興擺酒結婚咁out咩? 跟住又話生仔滿月咁,好悶氣囖。

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  27. Good evening, SK and all! What a coincidence! We talked about wedding! Of course, you are talking about others. My wedding dinners were very simple. There was not even a karaoke or band. We just ate, talked and yum seng.

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    1. I had attended lots of wedding dinners. I just loved to eat but I hated the loud music or the singing. I prefer soft music so that we could talk without shouting.

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  28. weddings drive me crazy, they start late and i am disgusted with the self amusing emcees and k sessions!

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  29. Traditional Malay wedding so much easier.

    Just come.

    Greet the tuan rumah i..e. Bride's parents.

    Makan.

    Linger.

    Look at the couple.

    Then balik.

    If relatives/neighbours, stay back to help out.

    I find that it's much nicer than the modern/grander weddings held in hotels.

    Those are like... syiok sendiri sahaja.

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  30. Wa lau eh! I really thought that you talked about your wedding.

    Anyway put joke aside, I agree with you on many points. lol

    I don't like to read or see people posting the 8 courses of wedding dishes. You are so brave to state it here. Clap, clap, clap.

    I just attended a wedding dinner too. It was held in Penang. Luckily no Karaoke, there was a live band singing songs whole night. I love listening to these type of professional singers singing songs. Most of the songs are so familiar to me. I enjoyed the night so much. Though I don't like to blog about the 8 courses wedding dishes, I honestly love feasting on those dishes.

    I would eat and eat until the dessert.

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    1. Correct la! Many times, they were using The Final Count Down as the opening song. So ah beng la!

      This type of dish serving ceremony is actually very redundant and hilarious. I would laugh too. I so agree with what you said here la! lol!

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    2. My ideal wedding dinner is only playing some soft, classical, and romantic music in the background. Keep everything simple and nice. Most of the time, wedding is just a show for others to watch. After the wedding, the bride and groom would be so tired with all these customary practises.

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  31. Oh I hate attending wedding dinners!!

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  32. And I hate it that the dinner always start 2 hours late!

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  33. And of course, I get really bored with all the dishes!

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  34. And definitely can't stand the karaoke sessions!! One time, I was sitting near to the speakers. Can you imagine? After dinner, I had a throbbing headache.

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  35. So, errr... when's your wedding? : D

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  36. Good morning everyone,
    Wedding topic yeah....many things to talk about...

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    1. The final countdown theme song is very outdated. Like us in small Taiping almost went to those same hotel for wedding receptions and same old song marching in and the first 5combination food serving theme song...apa lagi final countdown song again....

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    2. For myself, karaok session during wedding dinner....is ok. But just don't sing sad or break up song ler.... People's wedding and people wanted everyone to have a very memorable day right.

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    3. Nowadays modern people will not want to have wedding dinner anymore. They prefer to spend the money for a better honeymoon place. What you guys think?
      Wedding dinner is actually a must for their parents and grandparents. Usually relative and friends will talk back, why married also never invite us for dinner and whatsoever story.....well to follow their advice and be an obedient son or daughter is good also....try make it simple.

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    4. If you have been to those wedding dinner at kampung one....lagi geng. Cos speaker is loud... Many uncle and aunties sing hokkien song, beer tossing everywhere, got dogs and cat accompany you at the hall, food was just normal dishes and also kids running everywhere like no one rules... Interesting right?

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    5. Well as long as they like it and makes everyone feel happy and joy and I think is not a bad idea too....

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  37. Both my hubby and mine, we had two diff days of wedding reception. mine was simple one and a grand one on my hubby side. Hubby arrange a band from Penang -singing soft and sentimental songs. Flower arrangement along the path we marching in...

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    1. During my own wedding dinner, I myself not even able to eat... Busy entertain friends and people. But when comes to my hubby side wedding dinner... I can relax a bit n enjoy the food...

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  38. Recently I attended a wedding dinner, it was my first time experienced with floor dancing. Cos my friend's mum and dad join dancing class. So they invite their friends and they dance lively during that evening. All kinds of dance - cha cha, waltz and changing partners.... Interesting.

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  39. Some people even quarrel over the wedding details and preparation and in the end, the wedding was called off!

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  40. My cousin just got married in 2011 and she never had any wedding dinner, just a simple dinner inviting friends and relatives and register the marriage during the dinner, as simple as that.

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