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2015.09.03 | 茶餐室內

[Volume 10 Issue 9, #2053]
In The Kopitiam
In The Kopitiam
我覺得我哋大部份馬來西亞人, 要搵嘢食時, 都相當之依賴茶餐室.. 要搵啲地道嘢解決兩餐, 幾時會唔第一時間諗到附近間茶餐室得㗎?? 更有可能係, 對某些人嚟講, 每朝返工前都例牌去返同一個地方食早餐添.. 當然, 你知我唔會喺度談論食物啦, 我哋嚟講啲其他嘢..
  • 當間茶餐室逼爆人嘅時候, 我同人搭檯唔係一個問題, 不過我就唔係幾好同搭檯嘅陌生人傾偈囉.. 簡短嘅幾句客氣說話都尚好嘅, 不過要我好似平時見嘅長舌師奶咁, 就冇乜可能.. 唔係我唔友善, 我只不過係覺得有啲怪啫..
  • 我喜歡同啲老闆熟落㗎, 因為當你唔需要正式落單嗌嘢, 簡單一句如「照舊」或打個手勢, 老闆就已經知道你要乜, 甚至會記得你極細微嘅要求, 例如我要求啲嘢食唔放生䓤咁.. 呢種感覺係非常之貼心囉..
  • 有人行埋嚟賣嘢嘅時候, 賣乜都好啦, 我都會禮貌拒絕.. 而當有人行埋嚟討錢時, 我都會一概不理.. 因為我真係唔鍾意食緊嘢嘅時候有人打撓.. 而其中最乞我憎嘅, 係行埋嚟叫我捐錢而又鬼咁咄咄逼人嗰啲, 我十分唔喜歡且一定唔會就範, 況且今時今日好多都唔知係真籌款定假籌款..
i guess most of us Malaysians greatly rely on kopitiam when it comes to finding food.. think of our local delicacies and comfort food for a quick fix, where else would you consider other than that kopitiam nearby?? and probably to some people, it will be the same old de facto place every morning for breakfast before work.. of course, you know i am not going to talk about food here, let's talk about something else..
  • i am fine sharing table with other patrons in a very packed kopitiam, but i do not actually fancy chit-chatting with strangers sitting on the same table.. i can have a brief conversation but never a long one like chatterbox uncles we often can see.. not that i am unfriendly, but i just feel kind of weird..
  • i like getting close to the owners, i feel very warm when without the need to place a former order but rather something like "boss, biasa!!" or maybe just giving a sign, they would already know what i want, even down to the very details like remembering i do not want any spring onions for my noodles, haha..
  • i will politely reject anyone who come in peddling stuffs to me, ignore all who come by begging for money.. i just do not like to be disturbed when i am eating.. one kind that i hate most are those asking for donations who tout aggressively, i do not like that and won't give in at all, furthermore many may not be genuine nowadays..
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56 comments:

  1. This kopitiam very nice leh, I love the 'decorations'!

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    1. Eh I got see wrongly or not? How come today I can be FC? Haha! So once in a blue moon, everyone please go buy 4D today! :p

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  2. This has become our local culture where we seldom have peaceful moment to eat without being harassed. Sometimes these peddlers would not remember being rejected by you and tries their luck again to get your attention. This often happens to lottery ticket sellers.

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  3. I think I see Milo, Nestum & Ovaltine in the picture.. Eh, I like your 3 points today.. I thought you want to talk about kopitiam food or kedai runcit..

    Point 1:
    Frankly, I don't like to share tables with people (if I'm the one who just arrive, not the one sitting down la).. I rather go other place makan lor if I see so crowded.. But if go in a lunch group, then got other guys wait for table, then nevermind.. I'll just stand aside with my lady boss and wait for the guys to "chup" table or wait beside other patrons who are almost finishing, or finished already but don't wana get up, haha..

    Point 2:
    Err, if I buy everyday, then I don't mind "larn sook" la, they will give discount or maybe give me more stuff.. If not very close or don't go everyday, malas la I wana "larn sook", kan? But hubby very close to the fishball mee seller.. Every weekend, he will tapao one packet of mee home for the boys for brunch.. Wah, the packet getting bigger & bigger, heavier & heavier, loaded with minced meat, hehe.. So yeah, I guess got "kang thau" also if "larn sook" with the seller, hehe..

    Point 3: Yup, this one I agree.. Not only selling stuff or for money, or charity.. Some singing timm, walao.. I will politely reject also la.. Err, wait, actually not reject, but ignore? But I "mm yan sum" ignore la.. I will nod my head and say no, then hopefully the fella will leave in peace.. Some won't leave one wor, pull a chair and sit next to you somemore.. Hmmpphh...

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  4. Those who shared tables and loved to strike up a chat were often lonely uncles. I normally gave them face and joined in. They were often widower or old bachelors. Sometimes I got shock to hear their grandma stories while some tried to get me to join Amway and other MLM lines. I would not hesitate to ask them to read blogs when they were bored. I often promoted this blog sk0617.blogspot.com because it offers bilingual entertainment!!!

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  5. Hmm, sharing table is fine with me also, either I tumpang people's table or vice versa. But hubby is not so keen with it, may be he is a bit 'shy' la, he will try not to do that even if there's no empty table around, he will choose to just leave and go somewhere else. But for me, I am ok, but also need to see situation la, if I am bringing my 2 kids then I won't want to tumpang table liao. Cause Aden is very naughty, what if he throws things at people?? Then the younger one, we still put him in baby carrier and thus we need one extra chair, it's like too 'messy' and 'crowded' la! Then also, when I bring 2 kids go out, I will become very 狼狈 one, so better don't tumpang people's table, paiseh :p
    If just hubby and myself then ok, of course must seek for people's approval first la.

    Ya, some people very chatterbox one, especially aunties! And if you have kids along, sure they will have more topics to chat! What to do right? Cannot act rude pula, so just smile with them... And if this happen to me, I am the one who do the talking, while hubby will just sit there quietly enjoying his food. Man!
    The other day I went Aeon right, hubby was with Aden playing the machine, while I was sitting at the side with Toby (he was sleeping in his carrier). Then came this aunty who is a total stranger, kept looking at Toby, then asked me how old is he? Boy or girl? You look after him yourself? Bla bla bla... Alamak, I really don't like this situation. I mean, very dilemma one, wanna answer her too much also not good (feel uncomfortable to reveal so much to a stranger, furthermore it's about my baby), don't want answer also not good (later she might think I am so rude, though I really don't care la, haha).
    Well in this case, I think the aunty should seng mok already la. Cause I was actually swiping my phone, and being a bit ignorance to her already. But she still stand there looking at Toby.. Now come to think of it, I should just say excuse me and carry Toby away, haha!

    Point 2: oh, if you want this to happen you must make sure you visit that stall very often, like every single day! Haha, unless that boss has very good memory la, can remember what you always want, cause he sure has many customers everyday ma, impossible for him to memorize everyone's orders. But won't you feel bored if eating the same thing every time visiting that stall?

    Point 3: Yes, very irritating indeed. Some will just stand there for minutes even though you already reject and ignore them. Some even have smelly odor one, really feel gerli lo.
    Just like those sales person doing insurance or credit cards, very pushy one, can follow you til few streets down, hehe! Sorry la just being honest... Usually when I meet with this kinda sales person, I will just smile and say don't want and will keep walking.... I know they are just doing their jobs, so I won't act so mean.

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  6. Where is everyone today??

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  7. I am distressed to hear that my dad might be a lonely uncle after accidentally reading TM's comment above. He is one of those who can 'dap toi' and then chat up strangers like they have been old friends. Me? I am much like you, I don't mind sharing tables, but I would not look forward to a heart to heart chat with strangers who share table with me.

    I must have been very unfortunate with kopitiams so far. I think I am quite close to many hawkers in my hometown, and they would recognize me, but they never remember my preferences when preparing my food. Not even when I was still living in KL and frequent them almost daily... and of course I never got any good deals due to being close. Kanneh!

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  8. I don't mind sharing tables also.

    I like to hear owner's stories but usually am shy to initiate the talk.
    But somehow, quite a number of people likes to talk to my hubby although he's the quiet type. Maybe because he doesn't look sombong like I do. Hahaha

    I'd occasionally buy stuff from peddlers. Usually makciks lah..
    Nowadays I somehow appreciate that these people work hard to make a living and I try when I can to help. They are better than giving money to beggars, IMHO.

    But aggressive donation collectors, nope. I usually ignore.

    I donate. I have my own charities. So I don't need these people laying on guilt trip to make me donate to them.

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  9. Let me go straight to you points.
    1. I don't mind sharing table when I really can't find one empty table with others. Therefore I should not mind when someone want to share my table in kopitiam too. But, I wouldn't start any conversation, when people initiated the chat, my response was vary base on what kind of person and what kind of topic. If lonely aunties and uncles, I would response with a friendly smile, but I wouldn't chat more. I wouldn't answer briefly only.

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    1. 2. I didn't visit kopitiam every morning or every afternoon or every night. I am so regular, therefore kopitiam owners didn't know me well. It is nice if the owner could remember my favourite drinks and my favourite food.

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    2. 3. I would say no to donation in kopitiam, where got so easily receive donation one? Some more I am not from Arab Saudi. I don't mind peddlers selling me biscuits or etc. I would sometimes buy from peddlers too, if those things really caught my eye and my liking. Actually I would give to beggars depending on the beggars' criteria too. If the beggar is really work disable, then I will give little money to them.

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    3. Same here, I usually say no to such donation, call me cruel but there are just so many conned case these days! Even those beggars come, I will just reject. Many I see are still ok one, I mean they are not handicapped, got hands got legs why don't want go look for work but asking for free money??

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  10. I seldom go and eat at kopitiam. Not because I am high class lah but somehow I am not comfortable to go there alone. If my partner is with me, sure I love to go to the kopitiam because I love the hawker food.

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    1. I don't mind sharing table if I am not alone. So far I think I have not experienced sharing table even though there were times when the place was very crowded.

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    2. I experienced sharing table before at a McDonalds outlet long, long ago. It was crowded and one guy asked if he could sit at my table. Of course I don;t want to be rude and said yes. But when he started talking to me, I freaked out and quickly left (politely of course), leaving behind my drink and fries!

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    3. But had it been another lady, I won't mind having a simple conversation. I am generally not comfortable talking to strangers though they may be well meaning. Have to be careful also as there could be people with bad intentions.

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    4. Some people like to talk to just about anybody, They can strike a conversation anywhere.

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    5. In fact, I am very seldom having meal alone outside. If i am alone, I won't go to crowded place for meal. I will find place with less people. If I am with my hubby, then I don't mind go crowded place for meal. He is my body guard. His kind of serious face, no one dare to have conversation with us. Kekekeke!
      I just actually very chatter box type, I will "layan" those uncles/aunties if they talk to me. If I am in good mood, I will be friendly like an angel, if I am in bad mood, then I will be a bit quiet. But, I am not a quiet type la!.

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    6. Sometimes I will try not to go kopitiam alone too, cause a lot of uncles and ah pek one, sure look at you one kind. I go also tapao back home eat so can have peace of mind!

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  11. It's good to get to know the owners if you are a regular customer. Usually they will remember your order and your idiosyncrasies hah..hah.. and some are generous too, will give you extra liew.

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    1. Last time I used to tapau rojak and will tell the uncle "don't want mango" or "don't want chilli" or "don't want kacang" (depending on my mood). When he see me, he will always ask those three options until one day I said, all also I want hah..hah...

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    2. Back in the days when I eat rice with my chap fan (before my low carb diet hah..hah..), when they see my face, they know this auntie want "kar fan". So I don't have to say it myself because sometimes ah, very paiseh to tell "kar fan" because mostly the ladies prefer "siew siew fan".

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    3. Yes, I remember it happened to me too. I always patronize this kopitiam, i always order hot coffee with less sugar. So happy, if the kopitiam worker/owner remember and tell me straight what I want.

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  12. I also do not like people soliciting donations or pushing products when I am eating. I find this very annoying and rude. I will politely tell them no and then continue eating. If they keep pushing, I just ignore them.

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    1. I had one incident many years ago but it was at a restaurant. Me and my partner were having dinner and this guy comes in to push his books. I was so annoyed. I wanted to tell him off but my partner layan him. Hmm... I guess he has a softer heart than me.

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    2. I also do not like those aggressive ones. The more pushy they are, the more put off I am. I will never layan this sort of people.

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  13. Good afternoon SK.

    Uiks...todya change template again ka? I thought Tuesday's templete was a different one.

    Blue ...one of my favourite color. Hopefully rain will come down and chase away the haze. So darn hot right now ah. Melting liao.

    If ask me go to Kopitiam at this hour i would say no thanks lor....so hot leh. Ya sound snobbish but really lazy to move leh

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  14. I think most malaysian would have visited a kopitiam in their lifetime gua.That is the place to go when wanna have the most variety of food.

    Old time there is only one kind of kopitiam. Morning afternoon and evening people will go there and lim teh. And sembang. Now many types of kopitiam already lo.

    There are those that tried to stuff as many stalls in to the shoplot kind of kopitiam. There are those high class type with wifi kopitiam. Dunno la. Time changed

    argh...my brain melting liao...come back later....my grandmother story stucked


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  15. I don't mind sharing tables when it's super crowded, but i'm not the type who will initiated talk to strangers...

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    1. Even if that someone is very active in zumba? Hehehe! Yala, me too, won't initiate the talks.

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  16. I go kopitiam and the uncle immediately knows what kind of coffee I want, Kopi Poh Ka Tai Bua Shio

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  17. If anyone starts to talk to me when sharing table, I don't mind talking to them but just for a short while not a deep talk cos I will find it weird, but if those old uncle who are very friendly I don't mind because very often those old uncle who are very friendly and kind reminds me of my dad

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  18. Sometimes when we don't have choice, we need to share tables with the others. I'm fine if people were to share table with me too. But of course, I won't become friendly and start talking to them.

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  19. I am just like you where I always frequent the same place for my breakfast and kopi. Well, reasons I always go back to the same place :-
    1. Most importantly, the kopi is nice! And, that is very important!! hahaha...
    2. The place is comfortable. Well, you are going to start work and that may be a long day, why not start the day with some little comfort?
    3. The place is clean.


    To me, as long as the above are met, I don't bother if the food is good or not...after all, I am not a food marshall...muhahahahahha... unless the food is really yucky. Well, since I always patronise the same place almost daily for years, of course, the aunties there know what I want before I utter a word , just like you. And, to make me some unique, I got special orders, like less kaya and no butter on my kaya toast.hahaha..

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  20. However, this place that I always patronise (and it is actually two different places) can be crowded. Well, you know SG is not a big place and the shops are small. Thus, most of the time, I gotta shared tables with others or people will asked me if I can shared tables. Of course, all of us understand the situation and sharing table is very common. And, if I am lucky, I may share it with a gorgeous working lady...muahahaha...

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  21. The word kopitiam brings to mind those new style kopitiam like white coffee, paparich, hainan kopitiam and etc. I know you mean those old style coffee shop when you use the word kopitiam. I am like you too that I don't mind sharing tables but I don't chit chat with strangers and I dislike people coming to me asking for donation when I am eating. Being regulars sometimes when I wanted to change my order also susah because it will confuse the stall owners when they think I always want to order the same thing.

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  22. I encountered all sorts of folks who shared tables with me. Of course, not all the time I shared the table with others as there are times I can have it all of my own, it depends la.

    I shared with aunties who just did her groceries, uncles who ordered a kopi and then started to browse thru his paper, of course, working adults , students and even tourists. Most of the time there are no issues as maybe that's the way of life here, everybody mind their own business. In addition, most of the folks are well manner.

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  23. But since the shop is small and the tables are closed together, there are groups of people who simply talk loudly and laugh loudly which I hate it. That really spoils my mood.
    And, there are some folks who request to share the table and then after finishing their food, they just leave with the left over plate. It can look unappetising especially remains of half boiled eggs. Well, can't they be a little courtesy of returning the plates back since you ask to share the table. Just show a little courtesy.

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  24. I also dislikes folks talking to me while I am having my own personal time during breakfast. Well, this is the time where I can wind down a bit before the start of a lond day and I prefer to be quiet and alone, just like you. Even I met a friend, I will just stick to myself and probably just say hi and a smile.

    I remember there was some poly students trying to do some sort of projects and in an empty Starbucks with lots of tables, that fella chose to sit with me. I know he purposely wanted to see how I behave. He asked me if he can sit here and I question him there's a lot of seats around with a stern look. He started talking to me and I told him that I want to be alone. He probably sense I am angry and move away. hahaha..

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  25. I will also politely reject those peddlers who sold tissue or asking for donations. These can be old folks or people with disability but I feel that roaming around the kopitiams is the answer for them as they should go to some welfare centres which can take care of them. By supporting them in buying the goods, we actually encouraged them.
    There are even foreigners like Africans who sold watches or belts walking around the kopitiams. I just waved my hand to tell them I don't want instead of talking to them, who knows they could be dangerous.

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  26. Actually, the biggest problems not comes from the customers who shared table with you but the owner or their workers. Some of the aunties of the place I patronised sometimes can talk very loud or can be rude when they are stress. Some likes to make fun of you too as they know I ordered the same food everytime, though I can't be bother la.
    But what I dislike is when I ask them to clear the table, they sometimes will give you a bad face. Well I usually ask politely and I know they are busy but then as a customer, I am entitled to a clean table. You can hold on and not immediately do it but at least, take the effort to provide good services.

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  27. Another thing which I think is important is the place must not be too stuffy and warm especially with the smell of the food and vapour all over your perfumed and well-groomed shirt and pants. Imagine going to the office with a smell of wanton mee or pork noodles...hahaha..

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  28. Oh.. I think you didn't mention about some kay pohs, who either sat at your table or next to you. They just likes to look at other people whether eating or drinking coffee or probably check out how that fella or ladies dress up. And, when you check out your tablet or phone or even take supplements, the stares even grow longer and focus like they never see people took supplements before...

    Some kay pohs may try to eaves drop the conversation, due to the close proximity. I was once talking to a friend and then suddenly that kay poh just intervene and join in the talk.... sigh.... such irritating folks.

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  29. kopitiam always my favourite. cheap and delicious. peng leng jeng.

    could easily beat any proper restaurants when comes to flavour.

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  30. Sharing a table, yes.. sometimes no privacy if we want to talk something with our friends... but no choice, famous coffeeshops, they just want to sit down whenever there is available space...
    Yes, like you, I dont like to be disturbed while eating... after that, the appetite also gone especially when these long winded people talk and talk about donations.. sometimes I quickly put RM1 or RM2 so that they can move on... hahahaha... well, life...

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  31. Always love kopitiam food, cheap and filling :P
    PS: Don't like 搭台, feel strange :P

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  32. I jst makan and ciao...not disturb plszzzz...

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  33. 我呢度好少茶室,大部分都喺啲連鎖式經營,因此你以上所列出嘅幾乎接近0發生。

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  34. I also like to getting close to the owner, like me always goes to the same stall that I like and also order the same thing. I've a place where I used to dabao my breakfast weekly, they will always purposely gimme more noodles than others, even I order the smaller size, but when it came it's like the biggest size and very paiseh to say the price I paid was the smaller one.

    Agree with you, especially those donation one, donation to school like with the school stamp chop actually still can barely acceptable because those mostly from Chinese school, we all know la why Chinese school need to do so...but those like brought a whole thick file like saying donate to this and that orphanage...umm, that should I trust or not, I don't know, maybe not. Secondly like those selling lottery one, you said you don't want or don't bother them, they still hand it to your face very closely like that, sometimes I will get mad and show the anger face >.< Oh ya, one more those who has legs and hand with good conditions one, they holding a cup or bowl ask for donation, I every time want to said "you got legs and hands and not like you are not capable to work, why you don't go look for a job instead of doing this?" Talking about this, of course couldn't miss out those very sad one, elderly whole cup or bowl asking for donation, don't give like so kesihan...總之一言難盡啊!

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  35. when finding food relay on kopitiam ah. Hmm...it depends lor for me. My side here not many kopitiam. McD got la.

    But if say near my office the sure 100% go find makan at kopitiam or maybe the warung. Malay warung lor

    Usually know already what wanna eat. I am a creature of habit punya More or less will ask or order the same thing especially when comes to drink.

    There was once i wanted to drink other drink but after i sat down that the kopitiam that i frequent, the worker straight bring me my usual drink. alamak...paiseh. malu want to tell her that i wanted other drink. no choice . had to drink also la.

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  36. Unlike you, i am not fine with sharing table with strangers when there is a full house. But sometimes no choice what to do.

    If i happen to be in that situation, i would eat fast and cabut lari fast. I just don;t feel comfortable sharing table with strangers. Probably paranoid. Heard so many stories strangers slipping drugs into the drink and food with malicious intend. Yea the kopitiam is packed and there are many eyes there but still....people are busy makan mah. where got time to see what happen to your food and drinks

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  37. lagi die if that happens to sit with sloppy eaters who splash the noodles soup here and there or maybe ah choo sneezing here and there. Adui...really hilang selera wanna makan leh. \

    Now not so bad la but when i was a kid, i still remember got people who share table would just spat their phelm on the floor. So yucky leh

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  38. Also beh tahan those talkative punya. Wanna talk and ask so much for what? Wanna be besan meh....match making ka? Asked so many thing....work where stay where ...how many bro and sis. Cantonese say "Break flower pot, ask till end road". Adui.....sorry la.....am trying to have my breakfast/lunch leh

    Am super uncomfortable with that. Moreover if this shop is the place that I frequent....die lo...next morning that uncle or auntie see me gain then might wave me over there to sit down and chit chat again.....errr....like that I rather be viewed as unfriendly la. Less talk less gossip. Aman satu dunia

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  39. Hohoho ......your NN just had ads. Ahem ahem liao...dunno about what minyak...speaking of minyak....actually unlike you, i also not keen to get to know the owner.

    Am very private kind of person and doesn't like people asking a lot of unnecessary questions.

    sometimes can also be regular without getting know the owner . Like what i mentioned in an earlier comment thread la. The worker see my face already know i would order kopi o panas. so the worker willn automatic get me the drink lor. Yes it is nice to be welcomed like that la provided no loads of questioning.

    I paling takut is when eating and the owner come over to chit chat ask aout this and that. How la to answer with mouth full and then sometimes whe they know what like you are in and they will asked free advice pulak. Free advice not that bad. Worst still is they ask help to book this and reserves that. Say no then they tak suka pulak. Say yes then will sendiri susah and w=if boss know then will kena boss membebel. haiz....

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  40. I think everyone will politely reject those who come peddling stuffs la. Betul what you said . Most are not genuine one nowadays. Like certain religious group who ask for donation....mana la ada can specify the amount punya. If give RM1 RM2 they say dont want. So like that one meh?


    I think am not good at rejecting people. When they come selling things and i wanna reject, i dare not look them into the eyes and say no. Usually i look into my bowl of noodles or rice and geleng kepala. Maybe scare to see their disappointed face kot.

    Another one are those school kids asking for donation. That one is very hard to reject. Why la school nowadays still send kids go out and ask for donation. As a mother, i feel very uncomfortable. Some will reject terus . some will give . and sometimes i see there are some who tried to chat up the school kids. It's just so dangerous leh

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